Sorrow Not as Those That Have No Hope
July 8, 2007 · Pastor Miles DeBenedictis
In this teaching
Preaching in the wake of the death of Joyce, a beloved member, Pastor Miles turns from his scheduled passage to 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 to answer whether believers may grieve. He teaches that Christians do sorrow, but not as those without hope, because the resurrection of Christ guarantees that death is a passage into the Lord's presence and a new thing God is doing.
- It is right to sorrow at death, but believers grieve differently because they have hope grounded in Christ's resurrection.
- Biblical hope is not wishful thinking but "absolute certainty of coming good," resting on faith—"if we believe."
- Our flesh naturally hates and resists death, yet to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.
- Scripture and the Holy Spirit (the Comforter) bring comfort and understanding that the world lacks, which is why the believer's joy in sorrow looks strange to others.
- Old Testament saints like Abraham and David believed in a coming resurrection; Jesus brings life and immortality fully to light in the gospel.
- Suffering and pruning can be the context in which God does a new thing, giving beauty for ashes and joy for mourning so He is glorified.
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But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him... For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Wherefore comfort one another with these words. —
When death comes to our doorstep, Scripture does not forbid our tears—it forbids our hopelessness.
Is It All Right to Sorrow?
In light of what has happened this week, and the announcement this morning that Joyce has gone to be with the Lord, I spent Thursday and Friday in asking the Lord what He wanted me to say. By Friday afternoon I still had nothing, and sensed He had something else for us. So open your Bibles to .
It is never an easy thing when a family member or friend goes to be with the Lord, whether sudden or prolonged. I've talked with people who lost someone suddenly and say that's easier, and others who lost someone slowly and say that's easier because there's more time for closure. The truth is, death is never easy or painless. As a church we've experienced both this year—Pastor Richard's son going suddenly earlier in the year, and now Joyce this last week.
So the question comes: is it all right to sorrow? I think a resounding yes needs to be given. Paul writes, "I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep"—a gentle way of saying, concerning those who have died—"that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope."
Hope the World Does Not Have
The implication of this verse is that there are those in the world who have no hope. Especially in the context of a loved one dying, that is a miserable place to be—someone goes, and you have no hope of where they may be.
The hope of the world is different from the hope described in Scripture. If you go down to the street fair with Josh and the guys and ask people, "If you died tonight, would you go to heaven?" many say, "Well, I hope so." But that is blind, wishful thinking. The Wycliffe Bible Commentary defines the biblical term hope as "absolute certainty of coming good." We as believers have an absolute certainty of coming good.
Notice the basis of this hope in verse 14: "For if we believe." Underline that. Without faith there is no hope. If we believe that Jesus died and rose again—what are we believing in? The resurrection, the hinge pin of our faith. In the light of Christ's resurrection, we can know with certainty that He will also raise us to newness of life. That is why verse 18 says, "Wherefore comfort one another with these words." The Word of God brings this hope to light.
The Comforter Within
The word "comfort" in verse 18 is the Greek parakaleo. Its root appears in parakletos in , where Jesus says, "I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive." We have the comfort of the Scriptures and the comfort of the Spirit poured out upon us.
Why do we need such a Helper? Because, as Jesus says at the end of , "In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." That word "trouble" means to be restless, tossed to and fro, shaken to the core. It is not stepping on a Lego in the morning; it is being shaken to the core. Every one of us, believer or unbeliever, will experience this trouble in this life.
Let Not Your Heart Be Troubled
That same word appears in : "Let not your heart be troubled." How can I possibly keep that command in a world full of trouble? We have to see the context. In , Jesus had told His disciples, "Yet a little while I am with you... whither I go, ye cannot come." These men had followed Him everywhere for three years, and now He says He is going where they cannot follow. Peter protested, "Lord, why cannot I follow thee now? I will lay down my life for thy sake." They were troubled.
So Jesus says, "Let not your heart be troubled." On what basis? Read on: "ye believe in God, believe also in me." Pause there. If it stopped at "believe in God," you might have cause for trouble—even the demons believe in God, and tremble. To believe in God without the Lord Jesus Christ is a problem. "Believe also in me," Jesus says.
Why? "In my Father's house are many mansions... I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself." This is the great promise of eternal life—a city whose builder and maker is God. And when Thomas said, "Lord, we know not whither thou goest; and how can we know the way?" Jesus answered, "I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." Put your faith in Christ, and everything changes.
Why Our Flesh Clings to This World
This life is not all there is. That understanding is so foundational to our faith, yet we get distracted and focused on this life. Why? Because we have this earthly tent, and this body exists only here. For the flesh, this is all there is.
Our flesh is strong. Its desire to live is impressive. Some of you have sat beside a dying family member and seen in their last breaths how the body fights to hold on. This flesh hates death. In the Garden, God told Adam, "In the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die." I do not believe it was God's intention that man would die, but when Adam sinned he immediately died spiritually—notice God's first words were, "Adam, where art thou?" A separation had taken place, and physical death began at that moment.
That is why many people, in and out of the church, won't go to funerals. The flesh does not like death, though it is an inescapable reality. Billions are spent every year trying to cheat death—some even paying to have their bodies cryogenically frozen. Why? They love this world. We experience this same resistance daily as Christians, for we are called to deny ourselves, take up our cross, and die to self. Paul said, "I die daily." None of us find that easy, because our flesh hates to die.
Absent From the Body, Present With the Lord
For the believer, we have this hope: this world is not all there is. As says, "to be absent from the body... to be present with the Lord." Physical death is the separation of your soul from this tent, and to be absent from this body is to be present with the Lord. Peter tells us that when we see Him, we shall be like Him. A transformation takes place. Joyce experienced that this week—she is with the Lord in glory, where there is fullness of joy and pleasures forevermore.
was an encouragement to believers in Thessalonica who worried their loved ones had missed the day of the Lord. Paul assured them they had not—in fact, they have preceded us. "We shall not all sleep, but we shall be changed," says , "in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye... this corruptible shall put on incorruption, and this mortal shall put on immortality." And so shall we ever be with the Lord.
Joy That Looks Strange to the World
This hope brings joy in the midst of sorrow—a joy grounded on the sure promise of God. And this comfort comes as we study the Scriptures, because tells us Jesus brings "life and immortality to light through the gospel." Before Jesus came, man had no clear understanding of the afterlife.
We see this in . The prophet told King Hezekiah his sickness was unto death, and Hezekiah turned to the wall, wept, and begged for more life. God gave him fifteen more years. Yet in his following song of praise, Hezekiah expresses the darkness that surrounded death—even believing in a resurrection, he did not fully understand it. Jesus brings that mystery to light, so that now we have hope, comfort, and joy, even in sorrow. The world looks at that and says, "You're nuts." It looks strange to those who have no hope.
David and the Death of His Child
We see this clearly in . David's child by Bathsheba became sick unto death. David fasted, lay all night upon the earth, and sought God. For the last three and a half years many in this church fasted and prayed that God would heal Joyce. In the same way, David's child died, and his servants were afraid to tell him—"while the child was yet alive, we spake unto him, and he would not hearken... how will he then vex himself, if we tell him that the child is dead?"
But when David perceived the child was dead, he arose, washed, anointed himself, changed his clothes, went to the house of the Lord and worshiped, then ate. His servants were baffled: "What thing is this that thou hast done?" David answered, "While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept... But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me." David had faith in the resurrection, and it changed his whole attitude.
When the unbeliever sees joy in a believer's sorrow, it gives us an opportunity to share the testimony of the hope we have in Christ. It looks strange, but it is more real than death itself. "O death, where is thy sting?" For the believer, death is truly a passing from this life to that.
The Earnest Expectation of the Spirit
says, "Ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father... and if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ." And then this beautiful verse: "I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us."
I think of Mike Callahan, for years a faithful usher and a fixture at the high schools in town, sharing the Lord. He was diagnosed with a brain tumor the size of a bar of soap and given four to six months. He lived seven years, saying, "I'm living on borrowed time." He reminded me often of that verse—the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory to be revealed. He would tell complete strangers about his tumor within thirty seconds, pull out the MRIs, and use it as an opportunity to show people the Lord and the resurrection.
goes on: "the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God." In our spirit we groan for the day we are with the Lord. Joyce's flesh didn't want to go, but her spirit was ready. In heaven none of us will stand around recounting how hard it was down here; I believe based on Scripture that it will all be wiped clean. Yet shows the man in torment in hell retained full memory of his earthly life—how tormenting that would be.
I Am the Resurrection and the Life
In , Lazarus died in Bethany, and nearly the whole town wept. When Jesus came, four days later, He was "troubled in spirit"—the same word from . "Jesus wept," the shortest verse in the Bible. But not because Lazarus had died—He knew He would raise him. He wept over the unbelief of the people, who mourned with no anticipation of resurrection.
Martha came and said, "Lord, if thou hadst been here, my brother had not died." Some may even think that of Joyce. Yet the Lord was and still is at work. Jesus said, "Thy brother shall rise again." Martha replied, "I know that he shall rise again in the resurrection at the last day." Then Jesus said, "I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live." And He asked the question that must be asked of everyone: "Believest thou this?"
Without this faith you will not have hope, and without hope you will not have comfort and joy in sorrow. Some of you here this morning do not have this hope, and the reason is that you do not have this faith. But you can, and it is my prayer that you would.
Faith in the Resurrection, Then and Now
Before Christ came, the resurrection was a dimly lit thing, though Old Testament saints believed in it. Abraham, the father of faith—why did he go to offer Isaac? tells us he counted God able to raise Isaac from the dead. He believed in the resurrection. David, as we saw, believed in it too. Though they did not fully understand the mystery, they trusted the coming resurrection.
We are saved by faith just as Abraham was: "Abraham believed God, and it was counted unto him for righteousness." He counted God able to raise the deadness of Sarah's womb. They had faith in a resurrection yet to come; we have faith in the resurrection that has come in Jesus Christ. He reveals the mystery—"Christ in you, the hope of glory." Barring the rapture, our bodies will pass through physical death, our spirit separated from this tent, but it will be sweet liberty to be with the Lord.
He Will Make All Things New
declares, "I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away... And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away... Behold, I make all things new."
This is our hope—eternity with God, in His presence, where things are set right and every tear is wiped away. In light of this we have joy in suffering. says, "whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope." That word patience can be rendered long-suffering, because in this world the times of suffering can seem long.
A New Thing in the Midst of Pruning
This church has gone through ups and downs, many of them over the last eight or nine years. Those of you here when Pastor Tony had his mountain bike accident know how dramatically it changed his life, his family, and this church. At that time there was a confirmation among many that our church would go through a season of pruning, dryness, and difficulty. This year has been heavy—the death of Pastor Richard's son and now Joyce's death.
But there has been another confirmation lately, echoing and : "Remember ye not the former things... Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth... I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert." Don't misunderstand—I am not saying Joyce was holding God back. But God uses suffering to prune a church so it will be more fruitful. Even Jesus spoke of the grain of wheat that falls into the ground and dies, bringing forth new life.
The ministry of the Messiah is outlined in , which Jesus read in Luke 4: "The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me... to comfort all that mourn... to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness... that he might be glorified." God can give beauty from ashes, joy for mourning, and all of it so that He is glorified. When people see our joy, it is a testimony to those who have no hope.
My mom told me years ago that at her funeral she wants everyone in bright clothing, singing, "When I die, don't cry for me, in my Father's house I'll be"—because she won't be there.
Sow in Tears, Reap in Joy
says, "They that sow in tears shall reap in joy." There has been difficult planting here over the years—sometimes it felt like plowing gravel. But says, "let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." The harvest comes through sowing in tears.
It is not right to tell people that coming to Jesus means immediate happiness, a bed of roses, a highway to holiness. Jesus promised trial, tribulation, and suffering—but also, "be of good cheer, I have overcome the world." And this ain't it. This is not all there is. We will meet the same sufferings as the world, but in the midst of suffering we have hope.
Will Believest Thou This?
My prayer this morning is that your eyes have been opened to the hope Scripture gives, that you can connect the dots, because we are not going to be here eternally. "If we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him." David said the child could not come back, but he would go to be with him. Joyce will not come back—she'd probably be upset if we tried to bring her back—but we will see her again, and we will see the Lord, gathered together in His presence. That is our joy.
Paul asks in , "What is our hope, or joy, or crown of rejoicing? Are not even ye in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ at his coming? For ye are our glory and joy." Our hope is to stand in the presence of the Lord at His coming—Christ in you, the hope of glory. Not wishful thinking, but absolute certainty, absolute expectation of coming good. If that wishful kind of hope is your only place today, you'd better high-tail it up here when the pastors and elders come forward, because that is no kind of hope to stand on. The hope of Scripture is absolute certainty. Amen.
If you don't have a Bible this morning, please raise your hand, and one of the ushers will be glad to come down the aisle and provide you with one. We have Bibles available for you. If you have an open seat next to you, please consider doing a Calvary crunch so that we can fit more people in here as they arrive.
You're going to need a Bible this morning because we have a lot of things to look at. In light of what has happened this week and what Pastor Mark has announced, many of you already knew that Joyce had gone to be with the Lord because you keep up with Pastor Pat's blog or have called the church. However, for some of you, this morning's announcement may be the first you've heard of it.
As I was preparing for this morning's message, I spent most of Thursday and Friday looking through the passage we were going to be in, which is . By Friday afternoon, around 4 o'clock, I still didn't have anything concrete. I thought, "Lord, do you have something else you want to speak to us?" So, if you would, please open your Bibles to .
It is never easy for a family member or friend when someone goes to be with the Lord, whether it is sudden or prolonged. Death is never easy or painless. I've talked with different people who have lost someone suddenly, and they say it is easier when you lose someone suddenly. Conversely, others who have experienced a prolonged loss say it is easier because they have more time for closure. Ultimately, it is never an easy thing.
As a church and as leadership here, we have experienced both types of loss this year. Pastor Richard's son went to be with the Lord earlier in the year suddenly, and then Joyce passed away this last week. In light of these events, I have been reflecting on this passage specifically and many others over the last few weeks, knowing that Joyce was in that process.
In , the question that comes to mind is, "Is it all right to sorrow?" To that question, I believe a resounding yes needs to be given.
In , Paul says, "But I would not have you be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep." That's a nice way to say concerning those who have died. He continues, "I would not have you be ignorant, brethren, concerning those which are asleep, that you sorrow not, even as others which have no hope."
For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, them also which sleep in Jesus God will bring with Him. Paul states, "For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep." The Lord Himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God. The dead in Christ shall rise first, and then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the air to meet the Lord. So shall we ever be with the Lord.
"Sorrow not" is for those who have no hope. The implication of this verse is that there are those in the world who don't have hope. There are individuals, especially in the context of a loved one dying, who have no hope. It is a miserable place to be in, to have someone go to be with the Lord and have no hope of where they may be.
The hope of the world is different from the hope described in the biblical sense. Many times, you hear people say, "Well, I hope so." In fact, if you go with Josh and some of the guys down to Grand Avenue at the street fair and talk with people about the Lord, you might ask them the question, "If you died tonight, would you go to heaven?" A lot of them respond, "Well, I hope so." However, that hope is a blind, wishful thinking kind of hope. It's uncertain, just a vague, "I don't know; I sure hope so." But it's not the hope described in the Scriptures.
The Wycliffe Bible Commentary defines the biblical term hope as absolute certainty of coming good. We, as believers, have an absolute certainty of coming good. Notice what the basis of this hope is in verse 14: "For if we believe." In fact, underline that in your Bibles: "If we believe." You see, without faith, there is no hope.
But if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, what are we believing in? Of course, the resurrection is mentioned there. The resurrection is the hinge pin, I guess you could say, of our faith: the death, burial, and resurrection of the Lord. We are reminded not to sorrow as those who have no hope. If we believe that Jesus died and rose again, in the light of Christ's resurrection, the scripture makes it clear that we can have certainty; we can know that He will also raise us to newness of life.
Now, notice what verse 18, the last verse of , says: "Wherefore, comfort one another with these words." The Word of God is a comfort. It brings to light and understanding this thing called the resurrection, this hope in which we stand. Yes, we will sorrow. When people go to be with the Lord, when people die, and when suffering comes to our doorstep, we will sorrow. But we do not sorrow as believers, as those who have no hope. For we have placed our faith in Jesus Christ, the one who is raised from the dead and has the power to raise us also to newness of life.
The word "comfort" in verse 18 of is the word "parakaleo" in Greek. Some of you, when I say that word "parakaleo," know that it has another word associated with it in the scriptures. In , the root word "parakaleo" is used in the word "parakletos." In , Jesus says, "I will pray the Father, and He shall give you another Comforter, that He may abide with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it sees Him not, neither knows Him. But you know Him, for He dwells with you and shall be in you."
The promise there of the Holy Spirit is significant. The Holy Spirit is able, in the life and heart of the believer, to minister hope. We have the comfort and hope of the scriptures that God has given to us, but we also have the comfort and hope of the Spirit, the Comforter that God has poured out upon us. Why do we need that kind of Helper? Why do we need that kind of comfort in this life?
Well, there's another passage in John, , at the end of the chapter, that says, "In the world you will have much trouble. But be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." That's a promise of the Lord, maybe not one that you like to claim when you wake up in the morning. "Lord, I just thank you for the promise that I'm going to have trouble in this world." Probably none of you have ever done that, but it is a promise of the Lord. In the world, you will have much trouble.
That word "trouble" is interesting. It's a word that means to be restless; it means tossed to and fro, to be shaken to the core. It's not just like you wake up in the morning, you're getting out of bed, and you step on a Lego or something, and it's a bad day. No, this is being shaken to the core. That word "trouble" is used in . There, Jesus gives us another command: "Let not your heart be troubled."
Wait a minute. How possibly can I fulfill the command of Christ here in ? "Let not your heart be troubled." It seems impossible. In the world, we will have much trouble. How can I not have my heart troubled in the midst of trouble, the tossing to and fro, the restlessness that comes, the difficulty that comes in this world? Every one of us experiences this, whether they be a believer or an unbeliever; we will all experience this trouble here in this life. But Jesus says, "Let not your heart be troubled."
Why does He say this? Well, just before that in , Jesus had told His disciples, "Little children, yet a little while I am with you, and you shall seek me. As I said unto the Jews, 'Where I go you cannot come,' so now I say to you." Jesus says, "I'm going away. I'm going to depart." Do you think that His disciples liked to hear that from their Lord? "I'm going to depart from you, and where I go you can't come with me." This is at the near end of Jesus' ministry, and these disciples had followed Jesus everywhere He went for the last three plus years. And now He says, "I'm going somewhere that you can't go."
His disciples weren't very excited about that. Down in verse 36, Simon Peter said unto Him, "Lord, where do You go?" Jesus answered, "Where I go, you cannot follow Me now, but you shall follow Me afterwards." Peter then asked, "Lord, why can I not follow Thee now? I will lay down my life for Your sake." His disciples were troubled, and Peter was expressing the anxiety that was coming upon them as they heard the news that their Lord was going away and that they couldn't follow.
So, Jesus says in chapter 14, verse 1, "Let not your heart be troubled." But what is the basis upon which we can fulfill that command of the Lord? We always need to read on. "Let not your heart be troubled." You believe.
tells us, "Sorrow not as those that have no hope, for if we believe." Let not your heart be troubled, for you believe in God. Pause right there for a second, if you would. Because if the verse ended there, you might have cause for trouble and concern, because even the demons believe in what? They tremble in fear.
To believe simply in God without the Lord Jesus Christ is a problem. Jesus says, "You believe in God, believe also in Me." Why? "In My Father's house are many mansions. If it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you unto Myself, that where I am, there you may be also."
This great promise of a life after this, an eternal life, is what Jesus came to give—life and that more abundantly. He says, "In My Father's house are many mansions," a place that is not here on this earth, a city whose builder and maker is God. If you believe in God, believe also in Me, and I will prepare a place for you. If I prepare that place, then I will come again to receive you unto that place, that where I am, there you may be also.
Again, back in , we are told at the end of verse 17 that there is coming a day when the Lord will catch up those that remain, and so shall we ever be with the Lord, both those who have gone ahead and preceded us to glory.
And we that remain shall ever be with the Lord. At that point in time, Jesus says in , "And where I go, you know, and the way you know." But Thomas said, "Lord, we know not where you go, and how can we know the way?" Then come the great words of Christ: "I am the way."
Lord, we lift up whoever was just in that accident to You. Jesus says, "I am the way, the truth, and the life, and no one comes to the Father but through me." I am the way. He tells us, "Let not your heart be troubled." Let not your heart be troubled. Because of this faith, because of this understanding that there is a place prepared for us, we will be confronted with trouble in this world, as everybody will. However, we can have this place of surety, this place of strength on the foundation of hope, this absolute certainty of coming good. There is an absolute expectation that we will be with the Lord.
"You believe in God, believe also in me," Jesus says. Put your faith in Christ, and everything changes. In my Father's house are many mansions. This life is not all there is. Amen? That understanding is so foundational to our faith—that this life is not all there is. Unfortunately, we get distracted and become so focused on this life. Why is that? Why do we get so focused on this life?
Well, we have this earthly tent, and this body only exists here. It will not go on into that life. For this flesh that every single one of us carries, this is all there is. I don't know if you noticed, but our flesh is pretty strong. The desire of our flesh to live is impressive. Some of you have had the experience of sitting next to a family member who is in the throes of death. You can even see it in their last breaths that this body desires to hold on. Why? This flesh hates death. There in the Garden of Eden, God told Adam...
You shall not eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for in the day that you eat of it, you shall surely die. I do not believe it was God's intention that man would die. However, there was that option for man to take hold of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and when Adam did, he immediately, at that point, spiritually died.
How do we know that? Well, what were the first words of God to Adam after Adam's sin? "Adam, where are you?" There was a separation that had taken place. There was a death in the relationship between man and God. Adam spiritually died, but a physical death began to start at that moment, and this flesh does not want to die. It wants to hold on. It hates death. That's why there are many people, both in the church and outside of it, who won't go to funerals. I've met several people who have said, "I've never gone to a funeral before. I don't go to funerals. I don't like funerals. I don't like memorial services," because this flesh does not like death, although it is a reality. It's not something we can escape.
Millions and billions of dollars are spent every year on trying to find a way to defeat death, to cheat death, to get out of it. Some people are paying big bucks to have their bodies cryogenically frozen after their death so that maybe when we find the cure for death, they can be brought back to life. Why is that? Well, they love this world. I don't know; I don't know that I want to spend eternity here. Actually, I'm quite certain of it. But our flesh does not want to die.
Now, we experience this daily as Christians because the Scripture says in that we're to deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow Him. We're to die to ourselves. The desires of our flesh, we're to put those to death. We've been crucified with Christ. Paul says, "I die daily." How many of you find that death to self easy? No hands. Why is that? I'm not raising my hand. Why is that? Our flesh hates to die. We don't like it, and we don't like to be confronted with death in our flesh. We don't like to be around death in our flesh.
However, for the believer, we have this hope. We do not sorrow as those who have no hope. What is our hope? This world is not all there is.
And as says, to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. When we, as believers, die, a physical death is the separation of your soul from this tent. To be absent from this body is to be present with the Lord. Peter would tell us that when we see Him, we shall be like Him. There's going to be a transformation that takes place. Joyce experienced that this week, and she is with the Lord in glory. In His presence is fullness of joy, and at His right hand are pleasures forevermore. She has preceded us to glory.
was an encouragement to the believers in Thessalonica because they were worried that some of their friends and family members who had died had missed the day of the Lord. Paul says to them, no, they haven't missed it. In fact, they have preceded us. We will not prevent them to that point. To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. We shall not all sleep, but we shall be changed. Some nurseries have that on their walls in the church: we shall not all sleep, but we shall be changed.
, speaking of the resurrection, says we shall not all die. There is this doctrine, this teaching in the scripture of the rapture, the coming of the Lord, where He catches away His church. When that is, we do not know. We pray it is soon. We shall not all sleep, but we shall be changed in an instant, in the twinkling of an eye. This corruption shall put on incorruption. This mortality shall put on immortality. The scripture makes it clear that we shall ever be with the Lord.
Now, this hope brings joy in the midst of sorrow. The hope that you and I have, based on the sure promise of God, brings joy in the life of the believer. This hope and this comfort really only come as we study the scriptures. Why? Because Jesus, as tells us, brings to light life and immortality.
The gospel gives us understanding in His word about this truth. Before Jesus came and before God spoke His words, humanity had no understanding about the afterlife. Although many in the Old Testament had faith in the coming resurrection, they didn't fully grasp what it was all about. This is evident in . In this chapter, King Hezekiah was confronted with the news that he was going to die. The prophet Isaiah came to him and said, "This sickness that you have is unto death; you're going to die."
However, Hezekiah turned to the wall, wept, and cried out to God, "Lord, I'm not ready; please give me more life." God answered his prayer and granted him 15 more years to live. Immediately after that, there is a passage of scripture in Isaiah that reflects Hezekiah's song of praise or prayer of gratitude after receiving this news. In that prayer of praise, he expresses the darkness that surrounded death and the afterlife. Even though he understood there was a resurrection, he didn't quite comprehend what it entailed.
Jesus brings to light life and immortality in the gospel through His word. By doing so, we have hope. We are comforted in the midst of sorrow, and we experience joy. The world looks at this and says, "You're nuts! What do you mean you have joy?" It appears strange to those who lack this hope. Sadly, many people in this world do not possess this hope. There are some of you in this room this morning who do not have this hope.
But God desires that you would have it, especially in the midst of the sorrow presented to us when someone dies. He wants you to have hope, comfort, and joy. Why? Because this is not all there is. To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. Do not let your heart be troubled.
Death is very real, and the reality of it confronts us every single day. If you watch the news or read the newspaper, sometimes the reality of it comes right to your doorstep with a family member or a friend who goes to be with the Lord. But let not your heart be troubled. Do not be tossed to and fro. warns us not to be tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine. There are many strange understandings and philosophies in our world about what happens after death, and all of them are somewhat murky and mysterious. But God makes it clear.
It is very clear for us that those who have the Scriptures have understanding. However, it looks strange to the world, and the world doesn't understand it. We see this clearly in the story found in 2 Samuel, chapter 12.
In this chapter, you may remember that David had sinned with Bathsheba, and she had a child who became sick to the point of death. In , it says, "Therefore David besought God." He sought the Lord on behalf of the child, and David fasted. He went in and lay all night upon the earth. The elders of his house arose and went to him to raise him up from the earth, but he would not. Neither did he eat bread with them.
It came to pass on the seventh day that the child died. The servants of David feared to tell him that the child was dead, for they said, "Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spoke unto him, and he would not listen to our voice. How will he then vex himself if we tell him that the child is dead?"
This child was sick to the point of death, and David went before the Lord, fasting, mourning, praying, and seeking God, pleading, "Please, Lord, save this child. Heal this child." For the last three and a half years, many people in the church have fasted and prayed, seeking the Lord for Joyce's healing. But, much like this child, she went to be with the Lord.
When that happened, the servants of David didn't know what to do. They thought, "When we went in there, he was fasting and praying for this child before the child had even died. He was afflicting himself and mourning. What is he going to do now that the child has died?" They were worried that their master, their king, would not handle the news very well.
In verse 19 of , it says, "But when David saw that his servants whispered, David perceived that the child was dead." Therefore, David said unto his servants, "Is the child dead?" They replied, "He is dead."
So David arose from the earth, washed, anointed himself, changed his apparel, came into the house of the Lord, and worshipped. Then he returned to his own house, required that they set a meal before him, and he ate. His disciples were worried about how he would take this news. They might have been casting lots, saying, "You go in and tell him." "No, you go in. I'm not going to tell him."
Is the child dead? Yes, the child has died. Okay, I'm going to go worship the Lord and eat. He cleans himself up, goes, and worships at the house of the Lord. Then he returns and says, "Can you please prepare a meal for me?" His servants are looking at this and thinking it is strange.
The servants said unto him, in verse 21, "What is this thing that you have done? You did fast and weep for the child while the child was alive, but when the child was dead, you did rise and eat bread." It didn't make sense to the servants. David replied, "While the child was yet alive, I fasted and I wept, for I said, 'Who can tell whether God will be gracious to me and that the child may live?' I knew that God had the power to heal, and I hoped that the Lord would heal. Who can tell? Maybe the Lord will be gracious and the child will live. But now the child is dead. Wherefore should I fast? Why should I continue to fast? Can I bring him back again?" The answer to that was a definite no. He said, "I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me."
You see, David had faith in the resurrection. He understood that there was a coming resurrection, and it changed his attitude. His servants looked on and said, "This is just strange." People may look at the believer, the follower of Christ, who has joy—even though it is sorrow mixed with joy. They have joy in the midst of difficulty. The unbeliever looks on and asks, "How is this?"
And you know what it gives us? It gives us an opportunity. It gives us an opportunity to share the testimony of the hope that we have in Christ. It may look strange to the world, but it's more real than death even—the truth of the resurrection. For the believer, the scripture says, "Oh death, where is your sting?" It is really, truly, as the scriptures declare, a passing from this life to that.
Does our flesh enjoy it? Absolutely not. Our flesh hates it. When confronted with it, our flesh will cry out and say, "I don't want to die." But that's the flesh speaking, because the spirit desires to go be with the Lord. In fact, in Romans...
Chapter 8, , verse 15, reads: "For you received not the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you have received the spirit of adoption whereby we cry, Abba, Father." The Spirit itself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God. And if we are children, then we are heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if so be that we suffer with Him, that we may also be glorified together.
Notice this beautiful verse: "For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in us." Some of you remember Mike Callahan. Many of you do. Mike Callahan was a faithful usher at our church for years. Beyond that, he was dedicated to 1-800-HIT-HOME, the hotline. He was also committed to visiting the high schools here in town. I don't think there was a student at San Marcos High School who didn't know Mike Callahan, and many of them at Escondido High School and Orange Glen High School knew him as well. He was a fixture there, passing out water bottles and sharing the love of the Lord with people.
However, he was diagnosed with a brain tumor the size of a bar of soap, and his doctor said, "You have 4 to 6 months to live." Remarkably, he went on to live for 7 years. Some people, when confronted with such an outlook, adopt the mindset of those in the time of Isaiah: "Let's eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die." They decide to go out and do whatever they always wanted to do, living it up. Others might say, "Forget it. There's nothing to live for anymore," and they just kind of shrivel up and die quickly.
Mike Callahan, however, said, "I'm living on borrowed time. Everything after those first 6 months was a grace from God." He served the Lord faithfully. Many times when I spoke with Mike, he reminded me of this verse: "I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in us."
The suffering of this world can be harsh and difficult, but the worst day here is better than the best day in hell. The sufferings of this world are not worthy to be compared with what God is going to reveal in us, this glory that He is going to pour out upon us when we step into His presence. Mike knew that, and he shared that with whoever he could.
Many times, he would start talking with someone he had never met before, and within 30 seconds, he was telling them, "I have a big brain tumor in my head." People would look at him, surprised, and then he would take out the MRIs and show them, saying, "See, here's my head and here's the brain tumor. Yeah, it's going to kill me." People would look at him like, "What's wrong with you?" He always used it as an opportunity to show people the Lord and the resurrection. He knew that this was not all there is, as did Joyce.
Although her flesh, at the end of her life, did not want to go, her spirit was ready. How do we know that? states that the sufferings of this present world are not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in us. It says, "For the earnest expectation of the creature waits for the manifestation of the sons of God." We all, in our spirit, groan for that day when we are with the Lord. The earnest expectation, the great desire of our spirit, is not to be here on this earth, bound by this tent, but to be with the Lord in His presence fully.
The earnest expectation of the creature waits for the manifestation of the sons of God. There is glory that shall be revealed in us, and the sufferings of this world are not worthy to even be lined up next to it. Never, when we get to heaven, will any of us stand around and say, "Man, it was really hard down there. Let me tell you about how hard it was." It's never going to be like that. You're not even going to remember this. I thoroughly believe, based on the Scriptures, that when we get to heaven, it will all be wiped clean.
However, the Scripture makes it very clear for the unbeliever whose final destination is not heaven but hell. shows that the person who was in torment in hell had full memory of his life back here on earth. How tormenting would that be? But you and I, not so.
In , there was a man by the name of Lazarus who had died in a town called Bethany. Almost the entire town there, just outside of Jerusalem, was affected by his death.
They wept and mourned at the passing of their friend Lazarus. In fact, when Jesus made his way to that little town after Lazarus had been dead for four days, the scripture says that He was troubled within His spirit. That word "troubled" is the same thing that we read in . There is also a key verse, the shortest verse in the Bible, found in : Jesus wept. He cried when He came to the city. He wept, but not because Lazarus had died; He knew what He was going to do. He was going to raise Lazarus from the dead. Jesus wept because of the unbelief of the people who were there. They all mourned greatly because Lazarus was gone. They had no joy and no anticipation of the resurrection.
In fact, Martha, Lazarus's sister, came to Jesus in verse 21 of and said to Him, "If you had been here, my brother would not have died." Some people may even think that if the Lord had just done something, Joyce would not have died. But the Lord was at work and still is at work. Martha continued, "But I know that even now whatsoever you ask of God, God will give it to you." Jesus said to her, "Your brother shall rise again." The hope, the expectation of the believer, the follower of Christ: your brother shall rise again.
Martha replied, "I know that he shall rise again in the resurrection at the last day." But Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He that believeth in Me, though he were dead, yet shall he live. And whosoever lives and believes in Me shall never die." Then He asked her the key question that needs to be asked of everybody: "Do you believe this?" Without this faith, you will not have hope. And without that hope, you will not have comfort and joy in the midst of sorrow.
This morning, you may be sitting here and you don't have this hope. The reason you don't is because you don't have this faith. But you can. It's my prayer that you would. "I am the resurrection and the life," Jesus says. He that believeth...
In me, though he were dead, yet shall he live. As I mentioned earlier, prior to Christ's coming, the whole concept of resurrection was a hazy and dimly lit thing. Although those who were saved in the Old Testament believed in it, we see that in . What was Abraham's faith in? God commanded him to go and take his son, his only son Isaac, whom he loved, and offer him as a burnt offering. And Abraham went.
Why did he do that? Was he mad at his son? Did he not love his son? No, the scripture tells us in that he knew and counted God faithful, that God was able to raise him from the dead. He believed in the resurrection. David, as we saw in , also believed in the resurrection. Although they may not have completely understood the mystery surrounding it, they believed in this coming resurrection.
We have faith in the resurrection as well, just as they did. We are saved by faith, just as Abraham was. verse 6 says, "Abraham believed God, and it was accounted unto him as righteousness." What did he believe? God had told him that he would have a son in his old age by his wife Sarah. And what did Abraham do? He laughed. But he counted that God was able to raise and resurrect the deadness of his wife's womb. Abraham believed God, and it was accounted unto him as righteousness.
They had faith in the coming resurrection. We have faith in the resurrection that has come in Jesus Christ. Jesus reveals the mystery; He brings to light life and immortality in the gospel. That which was hidden in times past, as Paul talks about in many of his letters, is now revealed. Christ in you, the hope of glory.
I am the resurrection and the life. He that believes in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live. And whosoever lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this? Yes, our physical bodies, barring the rapture of the church, will go through physical death. Your spirit and soul will be separated from this tent, but it will be liberty. It will be sweet liberty to be with the Lord.
Absent from this body, where is the sting of death Paul talks about? It is just a passing for the believer in Christ. Do you believe this? It's what the Scriptures declare: the resurrection, the work that Jesus did. There is coming a day when we will be with the Lord, and things shall be changed.
In , John says, "And I saw a new heaven and a new earth. For the first heaven and the first earth were passed away, and there was no more sea." That's a bummer for the surfers in the crowd. John continues, "And I, John, saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband."
Then, I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, "Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself shall be with them and be their God." Notice this in verse 4: "And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes, and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain, for the former things have passed away."
He that sat upon the throne said, "Behold, I make all things new." Jesus is going to make all things new. This is our hope. We have the hope of heaven—eternity with God in His presence. There, in His presence, things are going to be transformed. Things are going to be righted once again. There shall be no more death, no more sorrow, and no more crying. He shall wipe away every tear. Why? The former things, this world, shall pass away. There will be a new thing that God will do.
In light of this, we can experience joy in the midst of suffering. In light of this, we can have hope. , verse 4 says, "For whatsoever things were written in times past were written for our learning, that through patience and comfort of the Scriptures we might have hope." Through patience and the comfort of the Scriptures, we might have hope.
That word "patience" could also be translated as "long-suffering." In this world, we will have trouble and we suffer. Sometimes, those times of suffering seem long.
As I consider Calvary Chapel of Escondido, this church has gone through some ups and downs, many of them especially over the last eight or nine years. A lot of you were here eight years ago when Pastor Tony had his mountain bike accident. It dramatically changed his life, his family, and this church. We experienced great sorrow in the midst of that. I remember at that time speaking with several different people within the church, and there was a confirmation among many that our church was going to go through a time of pruning, a time of dryness, a time of difficulty and suffering. It wasn't something that any of us were happy for or anticipating, like, "Oh yes, pruning." But there was an understanding that this was going on.
We have seen those ups and downs over the years, and this year has been particularly heavy with the death of Pastor Richard's son and now Joyce's death. However, there has been another confirmation among the leadership and many people I have talked to in recent days. According to the words we just read in and another verse we find in , specifically verse 18, it says, "Remember you not the former things, neither consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing. Now it shall spring forth. Shall you not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert."
I firmly believe that this is one of the things that God is speaking to our church right now: "Behold, I will do a new thing." Don't get me wrong; I am not in any way saying that Joyce was the thing that was holding God back at all. But God is able to use suffering, difficulty, and pruning in a church to bring us to the point where we are right now.
And why does God prune things? So that they will be more fruitful. God desires that the fruit of our lives...
God is doing a new work. He is doing a new thing even in the midst of suffering. Even Jesus talks about that grain of wheat falling into the ground and dying, which brings forth new life—a new thing that God is doing. Is it difficult? Yes, it is hard.
The ministry of the Messiah is outlined for us in , the passage that Jesus read from in . When Jesus had gone to his hometown of Nazareth, the scroll was brought to him. He opened the scroll of Isaiah to the place where he read, "The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me." continues, "The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me because the Lord has anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted and to proclaim liberty to the captives, the opening of the prison to them that are bound, and to proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord."
At that point in , Jesus sat down and told all the people present in that synagogue, "Today this is fulfilled in your hearing." But the passage goes on to speak of "the day of vengeance of our God" and to comfort all that mourn, appointing unto them that mourn in Zion. Here, the ministry of the Messiah reveals God's work for those who mourn: to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.
There is a purpose for all of this—that they might be called the trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified. You see, God is able, in the midst of great difficulty, to give us beauty from the ashes. He has the power to give us joy in the midst of mourning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. All of it is for the ultimate purpose that He would be glorified.
When people see the joy that we have, my mom—many of you know my mom—occasionally sings on the worship team here. She told me several years ago, "At my funeral someday, I want you to make sure that everybody wears bright clothing and that you sing that song from Mary Barrett, 'When I die, don't cry for me; in my Father's house I'll be. It don't matter where you bury me.'" She said, "Make sure you guys sing that song and have a party because I won't be there."
And so, God is able to give...
God gives us joy and beauty, the garment of praise in the midst of sorrowful times. This is an example and a testimony to those who do not have this hope, so that they too would believe in Christ. Behold, God is doing a new thing. In , I’m sorry, verse 5 says, "They that sow in tears reap in joy."
There has been some difficult work and planting over the years here at Calvary Chapel. In fact, one of the things I used to express a few years ago was that sometimes it feels like you’re plowing gravel. But those who sow in tears will reap in joy. In , Paul says to the church, "Let us not grow weary in well-doing, for in due season you shall reap if you faint not." There is that time of harvest, that great joy of harvest, but it comes through sowing in tears.
Sometimes the work is difficult. This life that you and I have is not easy. In the world, you will have much trouble. As a believer in Christ, it does not mean immediate happiness and pleasure here on earth, or a bed of roses on the highway to holiness. No, it’s difficult; it’s hard. But let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, at the right time, you shall reap if you faint not.
Unfortunately, there are those who faint and fall by the wayside. They are like those in the parable of the sower who were planted on rocky ground. They sprang up quickly, but the sun came up and burned them out because they had no depth of root. Jesus explains to His disciples that the sun represents trials and tribulations; it’s difficulty that we will experience.
It’s not a good thing to share the gospel with people in a light that suggests when you come to Jesus, you will only have love, joy, peace, happiness, and all these great things, because that’s not what Jesus said. Jesus promised us trial, tribulation, and suffering, but He also said, "Be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." This isn’t it, guys. This is not all there is. Praise God, this is not all there is. However, we will encounter the same sort of suffering that the world does.
We, in the midst of suffering, have hope. It is my prayer that as we have gone through these passages this morning, your eyes have been opened a little bit to the hope that Scripture provides. Perhaps you kind of knew it before, but now you can connect the dots and see what the Scriptures have to say about it. We are not going to be here eternally.
I would not have you be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who are asleep, that you sorrow not even as others who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus. David said, "The child can't come back to me, but I will go to be with him." Joyce is not going to come back here; in fact, she'd probably be pretty upset if we tried to get her back. But we will see her again, and we will see the Lord. We will be gathered together in His presence, and that is our joy.
In , Paul asks the question, "What is our hope? Our joy, our crown of rejoicing? Are not even you in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ at His coming? For you are our glory and our joy." Notice what he says there. What is it that we have hope in? What is it that we hold as our joy and our crown of rejoicing? It is the very fact that you are standing in the presence of the Lord at His coming. That is our glory and our joy.
It is the hope, Christ in you, the hope of glory. The hope of standing in His presence one day is not just wishful thinking, like, "Well, I kind of hope it happens; I don't really know." If that's your place today, then when the pastors and elders are up here in front this morning, you better high-tail it up here because that's no kind of hope to stand on. The hope that Scripture speaks of is absolute certainty. John Corson always says it is absolute expectation of coming good. We have absolute expectation of coming good. Amen?
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