1 Timothy 2:9
October 29, 2017 · Pastor Miles DeBenedictis
In this teaching
Pastor Miles teaches through 1 Timothy 2:9-15, addressing the proper conduct of women in the church amid a cultural moment of workplace harassment headlines, arguing that the passage flows from a good God who calls godly women to inward beauty, learning, and a willing yielding to God's created order as an act of worship. He contends Paul appeals to creation rather than culture, and that the office of overseeing teaching elder is reserved for men while all other ministry is open to women.
- We live in a broken world but anticipate the righteous reign of the King of Kings; passages like this have been misused, but nothing good can come from a bad heart.
- We must acknowledge our assumptions about Scripture and read this passage in its context: instruction on how to conduct ourselves in the house of God.
- Christians seek to please God more than themselves or their society, and godly women prize inward beautyâadornment with good worksâover outward show.
- Paul wrote to a free, women-exalting Ephesian culture, calling the church to be different; godly women are learners of God's word with men and yield to God's ordained order as worship.
- The office of overseeing teaching elder is reserved for men by God's created order, while all other ministry is open to women; "saved in childbearing" is interpreted as pointing to the Savior's coming or to the honored calling of motherhood.
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I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.
Approaching one of Scripture's hardest passages with the conviction that a good God has written it for our good.
A Broken World and a Coming King
For my entire adult life I've had the privilege to live and work in an environment with co-workers seeking to live their lives in line with the Scriptures. None of us do that perfectly; we all aim at the target and miss it. But as much as we can, we seek to live after the pattern of the Scriptures, treating each other as brothers and sisters. We work here at the church in a bit of a sheltered enclave, because the rest of the world is not as we have it here.
What we've seen in the news this last monthâworkplace harassment, sexual harassment, mistreatment due to genderâis something I've thankfully never had to work around. But I'm not naive. That is the experience of many people. What I've experienced as normal is not normal to our society. The hashtag movement online, MeToo, is a sad and shameful testimony to our culture. We've made huge strides over recent decades, yet we have a long way to go. I never want my daughters in a situation where they would feel they'd need to put #MeToo on anything.
My wife works in a secular corporate hospital environment, and she's shared experiences that certainly would be classified as harassment. Too often such things are laughed off and shrugged at, because people say, "Well, it's just the way it is." That's a sad reaction. When we see these things, two considerations come to mind. First, just as the Bible says, we live in a world broken because of sinâwe see it clearly from onward. But second, in light of that brokenness, there is hope: there is coming a day when the King of righteousness rules and reigns with true justice. We should all look forward to that.
Our Assumptions About the Bible
It just so happens we've arrived at this passage at this time in our culture, which makes studying it all the more difficult. There is a vocal, though perhaps minority, group who look at this passageâand others like it in and âand say this is the reason we have such mistreatment. I would push back. Even in places where the Bible has no dominant influence, you still find mistreatment and indignities. The Bible is not to blame.
When we approach a passage like this, we bring assumptions, and they fall into four basic categories. First: the Bible is good, and any disagreement I have is based on a misunderstanding or misuse of the text. Second: the Bible is mostly good, but the writers were overly influenced by their culture, so we can throw some parts outâa dangerous place into which many in the church today fall. Third: the Bible is just an ancient understanding, mostly unhelpful for today. Fourth: the Bible is wrong and even dangerous, and we've progressed beyond any need for it. Richard Dawkins, the atheist, holds that the Bible is so dangerous that teaching it to your child should count as child abuse.
My assumption is the first: the Bible is good, the message of a good God written for our good. So any disagreement I'd have stems from misunderstanding or misuse. We must honestly acknowledge that people throughout church history have misused passages like this, out of ignorance or malice, to mistreat certain groups. But objectively, where the Bible has gone over the last 2,000 years, it has predominantly brought freedom, liberty, and the leveling of races, classes, and gender. This reveals an important point: nothing good can come from a bad heart. A person with wrong motives and an untransformed heart can take good Scriptures and twist them. That's why the gospel's work matters. As God said through Ezekiel, "Behold, I will give you a new heart." Jesus by His grace transforms us from the inside out.
The Context: Conduct in God's Household
Second, we need the context, found in chapter 3, verses 14-15:
These things I write to you... so that you may know how you ought to conduct yourself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth.
These things are written so that we would know how to conduct ourselves in the church when we gather as God's people. So far in 1 Timothy we've seen Paul telling Timothy how to set in order a church at Ephesus that was out of order: a priority of teaching sound doctrine in chapter 1, a priority of prayer in chapter 2, and proper conduct for men in verse 8. The principle there is that the godly conduct men have in the church should be the same conduct they have in the workplace, marketplace, and homeâno duplicity, no hypocrisy.
Now Paul turns to women, specifically "women professing godliness" in verse 10. This is a message for any woman saying with her lips, "I'm following Jesus." And it brings us to a point that applies to men as well: we seek to please God more than ourselves or our society. Before you were a Christian, your desire was to please yourself. But with a new heart come new desiresâchief among them a desire to please God. We don't always fulfill it; that's why Paul cried in , "O wretched man that I am!" Our culture's drumbeat, especially in Southern California, is that your whole life is about making yourself happy. But the Christian's aim is to please God more than self or society.
Inward Beauty Over Outward
In like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.
Paul begins with "in like manner." Men, conduct yourselves as God's people; women, in like manner, do the same. Why write this? Because when Paul visited Ephesus, he found the women not walking in godly conduct or modest apparel when they gathered as the church. So his desire is that women professing godliness come with modesty, propriety, and moderation.
Those three words beg a question: where in 21st-century culture is there any place that values modesty, propriety, or moderation? That's just not the culture we live inâand it was not the culture of first-century Ephesus. We tend to think they were repressed and oppressed, but that was a very free society. Study the history of first-century Rome; just about anything goes. Philosophically, their worldview was much like ours. The only thing out of bounds in 2017 Southern California is to say something is out of bounds. Everything else is freeâ"I'm free to do what I want," as the song says, even borrowing "I'm a new creation" out of to mean "no restrictions." Go listen to Elsa's "Let It Go" in Frozen: "no one's going to hold me back, I'm going to do my thing." My five-year-old was singing it in the back seat, and I thought, maybe I should rethink this song.
This brings us to a third point: godly women are more concerned about inward beauty than outwardâespecially when we appear before God in His church. This is not to say godly women cannot care about outward beauty. Our God is into aesthetics; look at creation, at the sunsets in Maui. Godliness does not equal ugliness; holiness does not equal homeliness. Some Christian traditions have wrongly said a godly woman cannot look pretty. That's not Paul's point. I think my wife is a righteous babeâand she reserves her babeness for me. The point is that you should spend as much, if not more, energy on inward beauty as on outward. If you spend more time on makeup than on God's word, it will show.
Appealing to Creation, Not Culture
The immediate objection is that Paul spoke out of his own cultural repression. But historians tell us the first-century Ephesian world highly exalted and revered women. This was the culture out of which the legendary Amazon women cameâand Amazon women aren't girls who shop well online. The most dominant structure in Ephesus was the temple to Diana, to Artemis, and all the overseers of that pagan system were priestesses. So "it was just a repressive culture" doesn't fit the history.
What is Paul doing, then? He's speaking to a culture that had thrown off all restraint, with zero moderation, and saying that among God's people there should be a difference. He said the same in Ephesians 4: "you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles." Your conduct should be different from the worldâboth men and women. The cultural norms of Ephesus are not normative for God's people. As he told the Corinthians, "Come out from among them and be separate.... you were once darkness, but now you are light. Walk as children of light." So your adornment should not be purely externalâgold, silver, pearlsâbut the adornment proper for women professing godliness is good works.
There's a certain decorum for those who follow God. Five years ago I did a wedding in Ireland and stayed at Ashford Castle. The groom and I were pulled aside at the restaurant: "Where is your dinner jacket? You cannot come in without it." They lent us blazers, we walked thirty feet to the table, and then the hostess took the jackets off and folded them over our chairs. There's a certain dress required for that place. The gut check here is our motivation: are we seeking to direct attention to God or to ourselves? When God's people gather before Him, there is an adorningâwith good worksâthat is proper for women and men professing godliness.
Learning in Silence and Submission
Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.
A little Emeril Lagasse thereâ"kick it up a notch." That's the verse that makes our culture say, "Are you kidding me?" So let's break it down. He says, "Let a woman learn." That's intriguing. The Babylonian Talmud, from when the Jewish people were exiled and began gathering in synagogues some 2,500 years ago, said a Jewish woman could come to hear the reading of the law but could only listenâshe could not learn. Paul says the opposite: godly women are learners of God's word and ways with men. That doesn't cause a problem; it's a good thing, and it's what most of you women here do.
But he goes on: "in silence with all submission"âthe two S-words our culture hates. When we come before God's word as learners, men and women alike, one thing we learn is that our God is the Creator who established a created order. He ordered how the home is to be governed and how the church is to be governed. One of the adorning good works for women in the church is that they willingly subject themselves to that order.
We can acknowledge this is difficult. Our fallen nature doesn't align with God's created orderâthat's the whole reason we're fallen. So we fight against our nature and against our culture, which is itself fighting against God. First, acknowledge the difficulty. Second, come to this believing that God is good, and that His word, being from a good God, is for our good. Can you accept that the cultural philosophy you've been pressed into since birth may actually lead to more bondage and death than God's philosophy, which says, "I came that you may have life, and that more abundantly"? Where is the cultural philosophy leadingâto a wonderful utopia, or to devastation and chaos? Read the rise and fall of the Roman Empire; left to its own run, it descends toward chaos.
Peter says a very similar thing in 1 Peter 3: wives, be submissive to your own husbands, and "do not let your adornment be merely outward... rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." The holy women who trusted God adorned themselves this way. So submission is a beautifying characteristic for a godly woman.
The Office Reserved for Men
The hardest part: "I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence." If there ever was a fight in the church, this is it. GotQuestions.org, one of the largest Christian websites, reports that over the last five years their number one question concerns women in ministry.
There are different views, and we'll see more when we get to chapter 3, which goes in context with this. But parsing 1 Timothy alongside other passages, I believe Paul means that teaching and having authority go together. There is one office in the church reserved for men only: the office of the overseeing elder, those who teach and have authority together. Paul is not saying women never teach, nor even that they never teach over men; he's saying they don't occupy the office of teaching and having authority within the church. That's why our position at Cross Connection is complementarian: all ministry is open to all believers except for the office of overseeing elders, because we follow the created order God has given.
This brings us to a fifth point: godly women yield to God's ordained order as an act of worship and good works. says, "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." Submission in the household and church is worship offered to the Lordâand worship is offered willingly, not forced. Notice, too, that Paul does not appeal to culture. Verse 13: "For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived fell into transgression." He appeals to creationâexactly as Jesus did when teaching on marriage, and as Peter does. My fallen nature may fight that order, but if I believe God is good and writes for my good, I can step out in faith and say, "I'll trust You, God."
"Saved in Childbearing"
Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness with self-control.
This is considered by many the hardest verse in the whole Bible. Get the top 25 commentaries and you'll likely get 50 opinionsâvery little dogmatic agreement. Let me give the two most common interpretations.
The first refers back to , the very first prophecy of the coming Savior, who would come from the seed of the woman. The salvation God desires is impossible without the seed of a womanâwithout childbearing. So Paul speaks of a salvation that comes ultimately through the line of a woman: Jesus would come.
The second, and the most common, is that while women are not called by God's created order to be overseeing pastors and teachers, this desire is in some way satisfied or "saved" in the area of motherhood and childbearing. Here it's important to point out a sad reality: in 21st-century progressive culture, motherhood has been diminished and treated as a detriment to a woman's potential. That is not what the Bible says. Children are a heritage from the Lord, and motherhood is an honorable, high, awesome calling. Many Bible teachers think that in motherhood there is a satisfying of this desire of leading and overseeing for which women are especially gifted. I see it in my wife. She's especially gifted to be a mom. I'd be a horrible Mr. Momâthe kids would starve and the house would fall apart.
In God's created order, there is one place set aside for male leadershipâthe office of overseeing teaching pastorsâand one area set aside only for women that no man will ever do: childbearing. Both are honored positions and should be lifted up. And here's the upside: because you're not called to the overseeing position, you don't have to receive the emails about this message.
Is this a challenging passage? Yes. But God has called and gifted all of us to serve within the body. There is just one area He has set aside in His created order for male leadership; everything else is open for women to serve in every capacity. We live in a culture that has a problem with this, but this is an issue of worship as we are learners of God's word and ways. So may we take the step of faith and say, "God, we trust You. Though we may not perfectly understand all things, we trust You have our good in view, and we seek to follow You by faith."
Closing Prayer
God, we read in Hebrews that Your word is living and powerful, sharper than any two-edged sword, and that it cuts deep and is challenging. This inspired Scripture was given for doctrine, reproof, correction, and instruction in righteousness, that the man or woman of God would be thoroughly equipped for every good work. Lord, sometimes when we are challenged, rebuked, or corrected, it's hard. But I pray You'd help us approach Your wordâthis passage and every otherâwith the mindset that You have written it for our good, that we would know You and Your ways and live in a way that honors You and is most satisfying for us. Give us humility in approaching Your word, and teach us by Your Spirit, that we would know You more fully and walk with You as You have ordained. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
Desire, therefore, that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands without wrath and doubting. In like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. Let women learn in silence, with all submission, and I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, and then Eve, and Adam was not deceived, but the woman, being deceived, fell into transgression. Nevertheless, she will be saved in childbearing, if they continue in the faith, love, and holiness with self-control.
Father, we pray for Your wisdom. We pray for Your Spirit to guide us in all truth and to teach us all things. We pray this in Jesus' name, and all those agreed said, Amen. You can be seated.
I've had the privilege now for my entire adult life thus far to live and work in an environment and with co-workers who are seeking to live their lives in a way that is in line with the Scriptures. They're seeking to live their lives in a way that fulfills the teaching of the Scriptures. None of us do that perfectly. We all are aiming at that; we're all targeting that target, and we miss the mark certainly in trying to do that. But as much as we possibly can, we seek to live after the pattern of the Scriptures, and therefore we seek to live in such a way that we treat each other as equals, as the Scriptures declare that we, the brothers, guys and gals, treat each other as brothers and sisters.
We live and work here at the church, in the office, kind of in a little bit of a sheltered enclave because I realize the rest of the world is not as we have it here. And so I count it as a privilege. What we've seen in the news in the last month as it relates to workplace harassment...
Sexual harassment and mistreatment due to gender are issues that I have thankfully never had to work around. I am grateful for that. In fact, I do not have to hear people's explicit stories, nor do I have to put up with dirty jokes or foul language. It is a privilege to not be in that environment. It is not my world, and I am thankful that it is not my world. However, I am not naive; I realize that this is the experience of many people in the workplace environments they inhabit. What I have experienced as normal is not normal in our society, and I completely understand that.
What we have seen in the last month, particularly through the hashtag movement online, #MeToo, is a sad testimony to our culture. It is shameful for our culture when we see these things come out in the news. It reminds us that, although we live in a relatively equal society and have made significant strides over the last several decades in this area, we still have a long way to go in achieving equality and moving away from any form of mistreatment. We may be light years ahead of some cultures and societies, but I certainly do not want my daughters to ever feel the need to use the hashtag #MeToo. That is not the world I want my daughters to grow up inâabsolutely not.
In saying that, as most of you know, my wife works in a secular environment, specifically in a corporate hospital. She attended a UC school and has experience in this field. She has shared stories with me about experiences that could certainly be classified as harassment. Such incidents occur regularly in many of these workplaces. Unfortunately, many times, what would be classified as harassment is often laughed at and shrugged off, with people saying, "Well, it's just the way it is."
As she has shared with me before, it is not just men against women; that is certainly not the case. These issues occur across the board, and it is a sad blight on our culture. It reveals the current state of our society, highlighting the inequality and inequity that exist. Sometimes, people simply put up with it, resigning themselves to the notion that this is just the way things are. It is a sad reaction for us to accept that this is just the way it is. Whether it is the things my wife has shared with me or the experiences of others, it is clear that we have much work to do.
People have shared with me, or the things that we've all read in the news or seen in the news in the last several weeks, when we see these kinds of things going on in our world, it causes two considerations to come to mind.
First is the realization that, just as the Bible says, we live in a broken world. We live in a world that is broken because of sin. A person who is a reader of Scripture, a student of the Bible, understands that. We see that very clearly beginning at . The entire world is under the curse and fall of sin, and we experience the brokenness of it.
But also, in light of that brokenness, there is a hope that we should have because the Bible declares there is coming a day when the King of righteousness rules and reigns in righteousness with true justice. We should all look forward to that. Amen. We have an optimistic vision of the future when the King of Kings and Lord of Lords comes and establishes His righteous rule. There will not be inequality, there will not be inequity, and there will not be indignities. That is what we have to look forward to.
Now, the difficult part in all this is that it just so happens that we find ourselves in the teaching schedule at this passage of Scripture at this time in our culture, with all this stuff that's been going on in the news. It makes going through this passage all the more difficult as I've been spending time studying through the section of Scripture that is before us.
We are right in the middle of this passage of Scripture that some people in our culture look to as the reason for mistreatment, inequities, and indignities. There is a vocal, albeit maybe a minority, group of people who look at this passage of Scripture and others like it in , , and other places in the New Testament. They say this is the reason we have the kind of mistreatment that we see in our society today.
Of course, I would push back against that. I don't think that this is the reason we have such things in our world because, as you look at the world over, even in places where the Bible does not have influence and is not dominant, you still see mistreatment and indignities. So, the Bible's not to blame; I don't think that is the case.
As I shared a couple of weeks ago when we started to go through this passage, there are two things that we need to take into consideration when we approach a passage like this.
First, we need to take into consideration our assumptions. What are the assumptions that we bring to the Bible? Every single one of us has them, and I think those assumptions fall into four basic categories.
The first is to approach the Bible and a hard passage like this with the mindset that the Bible is good. Any disagreement that I would have with the Bible is based on a misunderstanding or maybe a misuse of this passage of Scripture. That's one way to approach it.
The second way to approach this passage of Scripture, or any passage, is to say the Bible is mostly good, but those who wrote these things downâholy men of Godâwere inspired by the Holy Spirit. Unfortunately, they were also overly influenced by their own culture. We see the influence of their culture in some of the things they wrote, and therefore, we can throw some of these things out. That's a dangerous place to fall into, but we should know that many within what is called the Christian church today kind of fall into that category. They believe the Bible is mostly good, but there are some parts that we can push to the side.
The third assumption is to come to the Bible and say, "Well, listen, the Bible is just an example of an ancient understanding." So, it's mostly unhelpful and really not much use for us today.
Then there is the fourth view, which is to say that the Bible is wrong in its teachings and even dangerous in its teachings. We have progressed far beyond any need for the Bible, and so we just don't need it anymore. As I mentioned, there is a small, very vocal minority in our culture today that champions this position. One of the big names in that group is Richard Dawkins, an atheist. His position is that the Bible is so dangerous that if you're a parent and you teach the Bible to your child, you should be guilty of child abuse. That's his view on the Bible.
So, we all come to the Bible with certain assumptions. I'm sure you would recognize and assume that my assumption when I come to the Bible is that the Bible is good. Any disagreement I have with a passage of Scripture would be due to a misunderstanding or maybe a misuse of that passage. We come to the Scriptures wanting to understand what is being said here, and this is the message of a good God who has written this message for our good. That's my default when I come to the Scriptures, trying to understand these things.
However, when we do come to a passage like this, we have to honestly acknowledge that there...
There have been people throughout church history over the last 2,000 years who have used passages like this, or I should say they have misused passages like this, whether out of ignorance or malintent. They have used these passages in such a way for the purpose of continuing the mistreatment of certain segments and groups of people. There are people who have misused the Bible.
However, we should also look at the history of the last 2,000 years of the church objectively and say that predominantly, where the Bible has gone, it has brought freedom and liberty, setting free different categories of people, including different races, socioeconomic classes, and genders. We have seen the leveling of so much liberty because of the teaching of Scripture.
Since we see both a bad side and a good side, we conclude that it is not necessarily the Scriptures themselves that are at fault, but rather the people who misinterpret, misunderstand, or misapply some of the teachings of Scripture, either ignorantly or on purpose. This reveals an important point: nothing good can come from a bad heart. If a person has wrong motives and a heart that has not been transformed by the grace of Jesus Christ, they can take good Scriptures and twist them in a way that will not yield a good outcome.
This is why the work of the gospel in our lives is so important. Two thousand five hundred years ago, God, speaking through the prophet Ezekiel, said, "Behold, I will give you a new heart." That is what we needâa new heart. Jesus, through the gospel of grace, comes in and transforms us. This transformation begins on the inside and moves outward through our lives. His saving work begins by giving us a new heart, which starts to transform who we are.
In approaching a difficult passage like this, we need to first acknowledge our assumptions. What are our assumptions when we come to the passage? Secondly, we need to understand the context. What is the context of this passage? The context for this passage is found in chapter three, verses 14 and 15. Just turn one page to the right.
First Timothy, chapter three, verse 14, states, "These things I write to you, though I hope to come to you shortly. But if I am delayed, I write to you so that you may know how you ought to conduct yourself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of truth." These things are written so that we would know how to conduct ourselves in the church.
If you're a Christian today, if you're a follower of Jesus, this is written so that we would know how to live our lives as followers of Jesus in the context of the church when we gather together as the people of God.
What we have seen so far in the several weeks that we've been in First Timothy are teachings that instruct the church and the pastor of this church, Ephesus, a man named Timothy, on how he should set in order things in a church that was out of order. They were off course. Paul emphasizes that he wants Timothy to get them back on course so that they would live according to right conduct and teach sound doctrine.
In chapter one, we saw that the priority in the church should be teaching sound doctrine. Then, in chapter two, the opening verses highlight the priority of prayer. Two weeks ago, we examined verse eight of chapter two, which discusses the proper conduct for men in the church. The principle that emerges from verse eight is that Christian men in the church should exhibit a certain kind of conduct when they gather together.
However, this conduct should not be limited to their time in church; it should also be reflected in their behavior in the workplace, the marketplace, and at home. Wherever they are, if they live according to a certain godly conduct in the church, they should maintain that same godly conduct in the world. There should not be duplicity; we should not be hypocrites, as Paul is saying.
Now, Paul turns his attention to the women in this passage. He begins to speak about the proper conduct of women, specifically what is appropriate for women professing godliness, as stated in verse 10. This is a specific exhortation for women who profess to be Christians, declaring, "I am following Jesus." If that describes you today, then this message is for you, just as there was a message for men.
If you desire to be a woman of godly conduct, it is important to note that this message is not only for women but also for men. The second point is that we seek to please God more than ourselves or our society.
As Christians, if you're a follower of Jesus today, there's a transformation that takes place in you when God gives you a new heart. We seek to please God more than ourselves or our society. Before you were a Christian, your desire was to please yourself. However, when you become a Christian and God gives you a new heart, one of the things that comes with that new heart is new desires. Among those new desires is a desire to be pleasing to God.
If you've been following Jesus for any length of time, you know that the desire to please God is not always fulfilled. That's why Paul, in Romans seven, would say, "The good things I want to do, I don't do; the bad things I don't want to do, that I practice. Oh, wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from the body of this death?" If you've been a Christian for ten months or more, you've likely had that experience. You have a desire to obey God, but you find yourself unable to do that without the Spirit of God helping you.
We have this desire to please God more than ourselves, but also more than our society. We live in a society that says your entire life is about making yourself happy. Have you noticed that? It is the cultural drumbeat of 21st-century American culture, especially here in Southern California: you live to make yourself happy. But the Christian, when God indwells your heart by faith, experiences a transformation. The Christian desires to please God more than ourselves or our society, or at least that should be our aim. The more we walk with Jesus, the more that will become our aim.
Paul is writing to that group. If you're a man or a woman seeking to follow God and professing godliness, look at what he says in verse eight: "I desire, therefore, that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands without wrath or doubting." We considered that two weeks ago. You can find it on our website, lifeandconnection.com.
In like manner, verse nine continues, "Also that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but which is proper for women professing godliness with good works." Notice that Paul begins this by saying, "in like manner." Men, you are to conduct yourselves as the people of God in the church of God in this way. Women, in like manner, you are to conduct yourselves as the people of God.
In the Church of God, Paul wrote to address specific issues he observed. Two thousand years ago, he visited the church in a city called Ephesus. When he arrived, he found that the church was not functioning as it should. Specifically, he noticed that the women, when they gathered together as the Church of God, were not exhibiting good godly conduct. They were not dressing in a manner that reflected moderation, modest apparel, or propriety.
It appeared that the women of the church in Ephesus were not conducting themselves in a way that honored God. Therefore, Paul expressed his exhortation and desire that women professing godliness, when they come together as the Church of God, should wear modest apparel and present themselves with propriety and moderation.
These three principles raise an important question: In 21st-century culture, is there any place that values modesty, propriety, or moderation? The way we present ourselves today does not reflect these values. This was also true in the culture Paul was addressing in first-century Ephesus.
Sometimes, we think we have progressed far beyond that time, viewing them as repressed and oppressed. However, first-century Ephesus was a very free society. If you believe that 21st-century Western culture is a free society, I encourage you to study the history and culture of Rome in the first century. In that culture, almost anything went.
Paul was writing to a society that was philosophically similar to ours. While we have made advancements in science, medicine, and technologyâsuch as the iPhone 10âthey shared a worldview that mirrors our own today. Unfortunately, we do not see any area in our culture that emphasizes the need for modesty, propriety, and moderation.
In fact, the prevailing mindset today is that the only thing considered out of bounds in 2017 Southern California is the act of saying something is out of bounds. This reflects where we currently stand: How dare anyone assume they can tell others how to live their lives?
That's what's out of bounds in our day. Everything else is free. As the song from the 90s says, I'm free to do what I want, any way that I want, any old thing, right? Free to do as I choose to get my booze. That's what the song says. It even has one of the lyrics that I looked up because it was stuck in my head all week long. One of the lyrics says, "I'm a new creation." Where does that come from? The Bible uses a verse from Second Corinthians, chapter five, verse 17, to say, "I'm a new creation." I can do whatever I wantâno restrictions, no restrictions. This is what is given to our culture constantly.
I challenge you to go listen to the song from the hit movie Frozen a few years ago. That song that Elsa singsâwhat is it? Let It Go. Go listen to the lyrics. I was listening one day while my daughters were sitting in the back seat, singing, "Let it go." Then it says, "No one's going to hold me back. I'm going to do my thing." I'm like, wait a minute. My five-year-old is saying, "Yeah, do my thing. No one tell me what to do." Maybe I should rethink this song.
Our culture is 100% focused entirely on the external. But point number three on your outline: this passage teaches us that godly women are more concerned about inward beauty than outward. Godly women are more concerned about inward beauty than outward, or at least they should be, especially when we appear before God in His church.
Now, this is not to say that godly women are not at all concerned about outward beauty. Our God is concerned about beauty. Look at the creation He made. My wife and I just had the wonderful privilege of spending a week in Maui. You look at the creation; you look at the sunset. Our God is into aesthetics. He makes things beautiful. So, our God is interested in beauty, and He is not telling us that godly women cannot at all be interested in external beauty. Gals, listen, godliness does not equal ugliness.
Holiness does not equal homeliness. I say that because there have been certain Christian traditions that have claimed, "Listen, if you're going to be a godly woman, you can't in any way look pretty." That is not what Paul is preaching here; that is not what he is saying in this passage. I just want to say that I think my wife is a righteous babe, and I'm perfectly good with that. You know what? She reserves her babeness for me. If she were just off showing it to everybody else, I might be a little concerned, but she's a righteous babe, and she's totally embarrassed right now.
It is not to say that you cannot have any focus on external beauty. It is to say that you should spend as much, if not more, energy and time on inward beauty as you do on external beauty. If you're more concerned about applying makeup than applying God's Word, it will show. If you spend more time on your hairdo, your outfit, and all those things that focus on the outside than you do on time with God to transform your inward beauty, it is going to be apparent. It is going to be seen. Therefore, there should be a concern about inward beauty.
Now, the immediate objection to that statement and this passage is to say that Paul was speaking out of his own cultural repression. He was in the first-century Jewish world, which had repressed women and put them down. Some might argue that he was just coming with that cultural mindset, but listen, not so fast. Historians tell us that this is actually not the world of the first-century Ephesian context that Paul was speaking into during that day.
Understand that the first-century Ephesian world was a culture where women were highly exalted and revered. This was the culture out of which the legendary race of female warriors called the Amazon women came. The Amazon women were not just girls who could shop really well online; they were highly revered. The most dominant structure in the city of Ephesus was the temple to Diana, or Artemis, the Greek goddess of war. All the priests and overseers of the religious system were part of this pagan religious context.
The system in the city of Ephesus included priestesses. These were women who held a very high and prominent position in the culture of that day. To claim that it was a repressive culture for women is not accurate; it simply does not align with what historians tell us about that society.
So, what is Paul doing here? It is very clear. He is addressing a culture that had thrown off all restraint, exhibiting zero moderation and no propriety. In a society where there was no emphasis on inward beauty, particularly in relation to the temple of Artemis, Paul speaks to the church, emphasizing that there should be a difference among the people of God. He had expressed this idea about ten years earlier when he wrote to the church at Ephesus in . He states, "I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles."
Paul is telling the church that their conduct should differ from that of the rest of the world, applicable to both men and women. The cultural norms for men in Ephesus are not the standards for God's people. Similarly, the cultural norms for women in that society do not apply to the people of God in the church. If you are part of the church, he would say, as he did to the Corinthians, "Come out from among them and be separate; be set apart."
He reminds them, "For you were once darkness, but now you are light. Walk as children of light" (). Therefore, he instructs women to adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation. This was not the cultural norm in Ephesus during the first century. Paul asserts that it should be different for those in the church. Godly women should prioritize inward beauty over outward appearance.
Paul writes that adornment should not consist of braided hair, gold, pearls, or costly clothing, but rather what is proper for women professing godliness: good works. He emphasizes that a woman's adornment should not be purely externalâgold, silver, or pearlsâbut should focus on good works as the primary adornment that beautifies. There is a certain decorum for both men and women following God, and even though we live in a culture where this is not the norm, he insists that it should be especially evident in the church.
When you gather together as the people of God and the church of God, there's a certain way that we carry ourselves. There's a certain way that we come before God and before one another.
About five years ago, I was asked to do a wedding for a friend of mine, and it was going to be in Ireland. The groom flew my wife and me to Ireland, and we stayed at this beautiful castle called Ashford Castle in Western Ireland. One of the nights we were there, the bride and the groom said, "Hey, let's get dinner together." So we went to this beautiful restaurant in the castle. We arrived at the door and were standing at the little booth, getting ready to be seated, when the host pulled the groom and me aside. He said, "Excuse me, gentlemen, where is your dinner jacket?"
"What?" I replied. "You cannot come in without your dinner jacket." We explained that we didn't have one. The host then said, "Okay, well, we will lend you one." They took us into a little room, gave us blazers, and we put them on. The most awesome part about this whole experience was that we walked through the restaurant with our dinner jackets on, walked about 30 feet to the table, and then the hostess helped us take off the jackets, fold them, and put them on the back of the chairs.
What was the point of that? You can't come in here without the dinner jacket. There's a certain dress code required for this place. Now, I get it. We live in San Diego, California, at Cross Connection Church. I sometimes wear shorts and sandals. This specifically deals with our motivations and what we seek to accomplish in the way that we look. Are we seeking to direct attention to God or to ourselves? That's the gut check here.
When we, the people of God, gather before God, we should understand that there is an adorning that is proper for women and for men who profess godliness. It is an adorning with good works.
Continuing on to verse 11, letâs kick it up a notch. Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. Bam! Right? A little Emeril Lagasse there. Kick it up a notch.
And that's the difficult verse. That's the verse that causes our culture to react, "What? Are you kidding me? This is really what you're going to study here?" Well, we have to break it down. What does he say? He says, "Let a woman learn." This is intriguing because you need to understand that Paul came out of a Jewish background, which included Jewish rabbinical teachings and the Babylonian Talmud.
This is during the time that the children of Israel were exiled in Babylon, about 2,500 years ago. This is when the Jewish people began to gather together on the Sabbath in what they called synagogues. They had never done that before. When they gathered together as the people of God in the synagogue for the reading of the law, the rabbis started to put together their comments on the law and to say, "This is how we are to do this."
The Babylonian Talmud stated that a Jewish woman could come to hear the reading of the law, but she could only listen; she could not learn. However, notice what Paul says here: "Let a woman learn." There is an equality that he is speaking of here that was not normal in the Jewish religion under the Babylonian Talmud.
Point number four on your outline: Godly women are learners of God's word and ways alongside men. In the church of God, godly women are learners of God's word and ways with men. And that doesn't cause any problem, does it? No, that's a good thing. Many, if not most of you women here, gather with us and learn the Scriptures and the ways of God as it should be.
But he goes on to say, "Let a woman learn in silence with all submission." There you have it: the two S words that our culture absolutely hates. However, when we, the people of God, come before the word of God as learnersâboth men and womenâone of the things we learn as we study through the Scriptures is that our God is the Creator. Our God, the Creator who made all things as they are, created a created order. He ordered things in a way that He desired and designed.
He set it in place, and one of the good works that adorns the women of God within the church of God is that they willingly subject themselves to that which we learn from God's created order. He has ordered a way in which the home is to be governed. He has ordered a way in which the church is to be governed. The church is the people of God, the pillar and household of truth, as He says.
So, He has set up a created order. Now, we can acknowledge that being in our 21st-century culture, this created order is difficult.
Our fallen nature doesn't align very well with God's created order. That's the whole reason we're falling. We live by nature, contrary to God's created order, and virtually everything that we do reflects this. When He calls us to be His people, He calls us out of a current in culture that is going against the things of God. Now He says, "I want you to walk in line with My order." Can we accept this? Yes, it's difficult. Our nature doesn't easily step into that. We are fighting against our nature and our culture, which is also fighting against God.
First, we must acknowledge the difficulty. Second, if we are following Jesus as students of the Scripture, we must come before this by saying that we believe God is good. Therefore, we believe that if God is good and He has revealed His message to us in the Scriptures, then His word is good and it's for our good. That's the assumption I come to this with. He is telling us this truth because He knows what is for our good.
However, my nature doesn't say that this is for my good. My nature doesn't like this, and my culture doesn't like this. So how do I wrestle with this? Can you accept that the philosophy of this world, which you have been pressed into for your entire life since birth, potentially leads to more bondage and death than the philosophy that God is giving? He is the one who comes to us and says, "I want you to have life, and to have it more abundantly."
There is a cultural philosophy that all of us know really well, which reacts to this biblical philosophy and says, "I don't like that." But we have to ask the question: Where is the cultural philosophy leading? Look at our society. Does it seem like it's leading to a much more progressive area, a wonderful utopia where everybody is free and happy? Or does it seem like it's leading to devastation and chaos? I would suggest to you that if left to its own devices, it descends towards chaos. Read the rise and fall of the Roman Empire; they kind of just let off all restraint and see where it leads.
And so, he calls women professing godliness to a quietness and a submission ordained by God. He says that this is a good adorning work that women professing godliness put on to beautify themselves. You may wonder, "Wait a minute, this is a beautifying thing." Well, let me read to you quickly from First Peter, chapter three, where Peter says a very similar thing. He writes, "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of
He's not even saying that women never teach over men. He's saying that they don't occupy the office of teaching and having authority within the church. Therefore, it's our position at Cross Connection, and it has been and will continue to be a complementary position wherein we say all ministry is open for all believers, except for the office of the overseeing elders. We are following the created order that God has given.
Point number five: godly women yield to God's ordained order as an act of worship and good works. You may ask, "Is this really an act of worship?" Yes. says, "Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord." Your submission in the household and in the church is an act of worship to the Lord, and worship is offered willingly; it's not forced. We do this as to the Lord.
Again, the objection to this is that Paul is speaking from a male-dominated culture in the first century. However, that argument doesn't hold up against what historians say. Notice that he is not appealing to culture. In verse 13, he states, "For Adam was formed first, then Eve, and Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived fell into transgression." He is not appealing to culture; he is appealing to creation, which is exactly what Jesus did when he spoke on marriage, and it is exactly what Peter does. They appeal to creation. God, who is the Creator, has set up a creative order.
My fallen nature might fight against that order, but if I believe that God is good and that He is writing these things for my good, then I can step out in faith and say, "I'm going to trust You, God, and I'm going to do this as unto You because I believe You have my good in view." It's a step of faith.
Now, of course, we get to what is considered by many to be the hardest verse in the whole Bible. Verse 15 states, "Nevertheless, she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness with self-control." What on earth does this mean? If you consult 25 Bible commentators, the 25 top Bible commentaries on this passage, you will probably get 50 different opinions, which means there is very little agreement on what this means dogmatically. Therefore, we cannot say this is what this means; we can only suggest that it might mean this or it might mean that.
And that's typically what you're going to hear when people preach on this passage. I'll give you the two most common interpretations of "nevertheless, she will be saved in childbearing."
The first interpretation, which is the most common, is that this is a reference back to the Old Testament. contains the very first prophecy given in the Bible, the very first prediction about the coming of the Savior, Jesus. This prophecy is found in , where it states that the Savior is going to come from the seed of the woman. The salvation that God desires for His people is impossible without the seed of a woman, without childbearing. Therefore, the Savior would come through the seed of the woman. This is one interpretation: Paul is speaking of a salvation that would ultimately come through the line of a woman, Jesus.
Interpretation number two, which is also common, suggests that women are not called by God in His created order to be overseeing pastors and teachers over a church. However, this desire is satisfied, or in some way saved, through motherhood and childbearing.
In this respect, I think it's really important to point out a sad reality in 21st-century progressive culture, particularly in Western Europe and the United States. In this culture, motherhood has been diminished and is often seen as a detriment to a woman's potential. That is not what the Bible says. Children are a heritage from the Lord, and to be a mother is an honorable and high position, an awesome calling of God.
There is a group among the elites in the progressive parts of our culture that claims motherhood is bad and children are a burden. The Bible does not teach that; it says motherhood is good. Many Bible teachers believe that in motherhood, there is a satisfaction of the desire for leading and overseeing that women are especially gifted for.
I see this with my wife; she is especially gifted to be a mom. I am not a mom, and I would be a horrible mom. I would be a horrible Mr. Mom.
I do dad okay, but Mr. Mom is bad. The kids would starve, and the house would fall apart; everything would fall apart.
What we find in God's created order is that there is one place set aside for male leadership: the office of overseeing teaching pastors. Do you realize there is one area in all of God's created order that is only for women? No man will ever be able to do childbearing. Both are honored positions, and both should be accepted as being highly lifted up.
Here's the devastating part: just think, because you're not called to be in the overseeing pastoring position, you don't have to receive the emails about this message. So that's good for you. Is this a challenging passage? Yes. But here's the thing: God has called and gifted all of us to serve within the body. There is just one area where He says, "I've set this aside in my created order for male leadership," but everything else is open for women to serve in every capacity. God has gifted and called for this.
We live in a culture that has a problem with this, but this is an issue of worship as we are learners of the Word and ways of God. May we take the step of faith and say, "God, we trust, though we may not perfectly understand all things, that you have our good in view, and we seek to follow you by faith." Amen.
Would you stand with me as we close in prayer? God, we read in Hebrews that your Word is living and powerful, sharper than any two-edged sword. It cuts deep and is challenging. This inspired scripture was given for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, and for instruction in righteousness, so that the man or woman of God would be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
Lord, sometimes when we are challenged, rebuked, or corrected, it's hard. But I pray, God, that you would help us to approach your Word, this passage, and every other passage with the mindset that you have written this for our good. We want to know you and your ways, and we desire to live in a way that honors you and is the most satisfying for us. So, God, I pray that you would give us humility in approaching your Word.
And would you teach us by your Spirit so that we would know You more fully and know how to walk with You as You have ordained? We ask this in Jesus' name. All those that agree said, "Amen."
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