Reconciled | Sunday, May 2, 2021
May 1, 2021 · Pastor Miles DeBenedictis
In this teaching
Pastor Miles teaches that human beings were created for connection with both God and one another, but sin in Genesis 3 brought division, isolation, and loneliness that no human effort can overcome. Through the blood of Christ (the gospel) and the body of Christ (the church), we are reconciled to God and to each other, and he closes with practical ways to live out that connection.
- Jesus came on a reconciliation mission; full connection with God is possible only through His reconciling work on the cross.
- We were created in God's image to live in connection with one another, since "it is not good that man should be alone."
- Today's culture promotes autonomous, responsibility-free "connection," even as loneliness and isolation reach record highs.
- Division, separation, and shame all entered the world through the fall in Genesis 3.
- The path of reconciliation is the gospel (the blood of Christ); the place of reconciliation is the church (the body of Christ).
- We connect with God through Scripture, prayer, worship, communion, baptism, serving, and giving—and with one another through fellowship, service, worship, prayer, and care.
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For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which is lost. ()
God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself. ()
We were made for connection with God and one another—yet only the cross can bridge the divide that sin has made.
Building Toward Reconciliation
I'm rarely shocked by the shifts in our culture. Sometimes I'm a little surprised, but rarely shocked. When I prepare a message, I begin by searching resources—passages of Scripture, biblical commentary, scholarly articles, sometimes data and research, and occasionally even news sources and op-eds in major publications.
We are currently talking about connection here at Cross Connection Church. Our vision is life in connection with God, one another, and the world through Jesus. In previous messages I talked about the purpose of the church and the purpose of human beings as the creation of God. We were created by God to be in connection with Him, to experience perfect communion with Him.
Disconnected, but Sought
Because of the rebellious fall written about in , we are all disconnected from God. We desire connection with something transcendent, but in our own strength and by our own efforts we cannot achieve the connection we seek, no matter how hard we try. Jesus came to bring us back into connection with God.
Jesus came to this world seeking to save that which is lost. is one of His purpose statements—His mission is articulated in a dozen or more such statements in the Bible: "For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which is lost." Several weeks ago, on Palm Sunday, we looked at Zacchaeus, the tax collector Jesus met in Jericho. When the crowds were upset that He would interact with a sinful man, Jesus declared His mission.
Another clear expression is found in : "For even the Son of Man came not to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many." And in He says, "I have come that you may have life, and that you may have it more abundantly." Jesus came on a reconnection mission.
Reconciled Through Christ
The apostle Paul writes in that God the Father "was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself." Ultimately, though we want to be connected with God, full reconciliation is not possible apart from Jesus's reconciling work, because our sin creates a gulf we cannot cross by our own strength. Using the same word translated "reconciling," Paul writes in Romans 5:
For when we were still without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly... But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us... For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life... through whom we have now received the reconciliation. ()
We are reconciled to God through Jesus. The connection to transcendence that every human being desires is possible—only—in Christ. Ultimate connection won't be fully experienced until we are present with God in eternity. As David wrote some 3,000 years ago in , "In Your presence is fullness of joy, and at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore." That fullness of joy is what we were created for.
We Also Long for One Another
At a fundamental level we desire connection with God. We were made for it, we lost it through sin, and we can have it restored through Christ. But we also desire connection with one another.
In preparing this message I came across a recent essay published in the New York Times by a young African-American woman named Haley Blasengame. She writes about a recent breakup after five years and how, during the pandemic shutdowns, she has realized she identifies as what she calls a "solo polyamorous" individual. She doesn't want to be joined to one person for life; she cherishes autonomy and preservation of self. A monogamous relationship, for Haley, is confining.
That sentiment may not seem strange to a certain segment of our society in 2021, but it surprises me for three reasons.
A Crisis of Loneliness
First, it's surprising when juxtaposed with the increasing crisis of loneliness, which has been compounded during the shutdowns. In June of 2016, the then–Surgeon General said, "Our greatest public health crisis isn't cancer or heart disease; it's isolation." If isolation was the greatest public health crisis in 2016, it is certainly far worse now after fourteen months of shutdown.
Just last Thursday I came across a headline: "Two in three Americans feel more alone than ever before, and many admit to crying for the first time in years," from studyfinds.org. Sixty-seven percent say they feel more alone than ever; 55 percent feel they've completely lost their sense of community; 54 percent withheld talking to anyone because they didn't want to be a burden; and 46 percent cried for the first time in years at some point during COVID. Haley's essay about wanting to be solo and separated is strange to me because loneliness is at an all-time high.
It Resonates—But It Cannot Last
Second, her essay resonates with a relatively large and growing group of young people. I went to her Twitter account where she'd linked the essay, and most of the responses—from people in their 20s and 30s—were affirming. One said, "Freeing yourself from the suffocation of society is a great and worthy challenge." Another, "I'm daily impressed by the commitment to authenticity and selfhood I see in young women like you." Another, "I love people, I love relationships, but I feel more whole alone." And one more: "I loved this. So freeing... it is what I've been looking for without knowing I was looking for it."
Third, this resonates with people, but it's not possible—not for any sustainable period of life. It sounds good to have love without the responsibility of genuine connection, but it won't last. In the end, if you buy into this mindset, you'll be among the 67 percent who are alone and lonely, because loneliness compounds over time. We are not geared this way. As people move toward what they were truly created for—connecting with people—the one who clings to autonomy will eventually find themselves isolated and alone.
Made for One Another
We were made to live life in connection with one another. says, "Let Us make man in Our image... male and female He created them. Then God blessed them... and said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth.'" Why bless them to multiply? So they could be connected together as one in community—reflecting the perfect communion of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit within the Trinity.
is a verse worth underlining: "It is not good that man should be alone." God did not create us to live solo, autonomous lives. Immediately after, in , God takes a rib from Adam and makes the woman, and Adam says, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh... Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed."
From one man, God made two—Adam and Eve—so that the two would be joined together as one. This is an issue of creation, not socialization. Marriage was instituted not by men but by God. The result of that perfect communion is fruitfulness and multiplying, more community, more harmony.
Living in Proximity, but Divided
We all recognize that we don't live perfectly connected lives. We live in close proximity to one another—here at our location we're within ten miles of nearly a million people—but we don't live in genuine communion. We may be more divided right now than at any time in recent Western history: divided over religion, sadly over skin color, over socioeconomic status, definitely over politics, and over ideology and perspective. Is it any wonder that at a time of great division we also have increasing isolation and loneliness?
Yet the aspirational message we're being sold by those who steer culture—through Disney Plus, Hulu, Netflix, the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, CNN, MSNBC, podcasts, AM radio—is the idea of solo polyamory: that you can connect with everybody without any responsibility to those you connect with.
Where the Division Came From
Where did all this separation come from? The same answer as before. ends with Adam and Eve naked and unashamed. But says, "When the woman saw that the tree was good for food... she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings."
They were naked and vulnerable before, with no shame. As soon as they sinned, brokenness and shame entered, and they sewed fig leaves to cover up their own brokenness. That is the first evidence of religion in the Bible—man trying to fix the problem on his own—and it will never be sufficient. Division, separation, isolation, loneliness, and death are all results of the fall. What's amazing is that all our own efforts to deal with the brokenness only make things worse. We deeply desire unhindered connection, but it's impossible by our own efforts, even our best.
The Path and the Place of Reconciliation
So what is the answer? We turn to , beginning at verse 14. Paul describes a separation between people groups—Gentiles "without Christ, alienated from the commonwealth of Israel... having no hope and without God in the world."
But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For He Himself is our peace, who has made both one, and has broken down the middle wall of separation... so as to create in Himself one new man from the two, thus making peace, and that He might reconcile them both to God in one body through the cross... Now, therefore, you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God. ()
Jesus is the mediator who reconciles us to God and to one another. The path of reconciliation is the gospel: Jesus, who knew no sin, became sin for us; His blood was shed, His body broken, and through His blood we are reconciled. And the place of reconciliation is the church, the body of Christ. Whether Jew or Gentile, whatever skin color, ideology, or political party—the church is where we are joined together as one. Through the blood of Christ we're reconciled; through the body of Christ we're united. That is the theological basis for our mission: life in connection with God, one another, and the world through Jesus.
From Theology to Practice
Now I want to move from the theological to the practical. I'm a huge fan of applied theology—it's not enough to know these things in the mind; we move from orthodoxy, what we believe, to orthopraxy, how we live it out. What does life in connection actually look like? I can't answer that exhaustively, but I can give you a beginning.
First, you must accept Jesus. You must put your trust in Him as Savior and Lord, receive His forgiving grace for your sins, and commit by His grace to become part of the church. We all live in a broken world and live broken lives because of sin (); we long for the better creation we read of in and 2; and our own efforts—religion—will never be sufficient. So Jesus stands in our place and deals with our sins, so we can enter into connection with God and one another. Don't trust in your own works; trust in Jesus.
Connecting With God
How do we practically connect with God? Through the Scriptures, where we get to know what God is like and what He likes—His nature and His will. We can deduce some things from creation, but we need the special revelation of Scripture.
We connect with God through prayer, talking to Him and expecting that He hears and answers—and we see answered prayer here all the time. We connect with God when we gather and worship Him together in song. We connect with Him through communion, the bread reminding us of His broken body and the cup of His shed blood. We connect with Him through baptism, which we'll be talking about more in the coming weeks. We connect with God through sacrificial serving—giving of ourselves both here at the church and in our outreaches. And we connect with God when we give financially; it's a pattern in my life, and my wife's, to give of the firstfruits of all our income, sacrificially.
Connecting With One Another
How do we practically connect with others? One way is fellowship—what the Bible calls koinonia—living in communion and community with one another. We experience it when we gather on Sunday mornings, when we serve together on a service or outreach team, and through our Connect Groups, home groups that meet throughout our county to share a meal, encourage one another, hear about each other's lives, serve, and pray. You can learn more at lifeinconnection.com.
We connect with one another through serving each other, through worshiping God together in community, and through praying together for one another and for the needs of the church. And we connect when we care for one another. There are dozens of "one another" verses in the Bible—probably more than fifty—that say love one another, care for one another, bear one another's burdens, forgive one another, share with one another. Our aim as a church is to daily learn more of what it looks like to actually live those out.
Looking Ahead
Our vision is to experience, express, and extend life in connection in all that we do. We've talked about life in connection with God, and today about life in connection with one another. That final word—extend—is what we'll talk about next time: life in connection with the world. This is what Jesus commissioned His followers to do—go into all the world and make disciples of all nations, sharing this good news of restored connection, of being reconciled to God and one another. I hope you'll join us next time.
Closing Prayer
Father God, I pray that You would take the truths of Your Word and cause them to go deep into our hearts—that like a seed they would take root and grow up and produce fruit in our lives. For those who already have a relationship with You, begin to produce the evidence of Your Spirit—love, joy, peace, kindness, self-control, gentleness, all the good things described in . And for anyone watching who has not yet put their trust in You, draw them by Your Spirit to ask You into their life, to forgive their sin, to trust not in their own works but in Your saving grace. Begin a work of grace in their life. I know there are people watching who feel isolated; draw near to them, encourage them, and bring them into a place of connecting both with You and with others. We ask this in Jesus's name. Amen.
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Now, let's jump in with worship with Pastor. God bless you all.
Heavenly Father, we thank You, Lord, for just another day to praise You, another day to serve You, and to learn of You. God, that's what we want to do today. We want to seek Your face, be in Your presence, and know You more. Thank You, God, for the opportunity to worship You and to hear what You have to say in Your Word. Would You bless our time as we lift You high? We ask this in Jesus' mighty name. Amen.
I once was dead in sin, alone and hopeless, a child of wrath. I walked condemned in darkness. Your mercy brought me life, and in Your loving kindness, You raised me up with Christ and made me righteous. You have brought me back.
Lord, You are the light that broke the darkness. You satisfy my soul when I...
I am heartless whenever I forget my true identity. Show me who I am and help me with my life. Forever by Your grace, I'm saved; by Your praise, I'm safe. I'll never be the same. My sin has been erased; I'll never be the same. You have brought me back with the riches of Your amazing grace.
Welcome and thanks for tuning in to Cross Connection Church today. We're so glad that we get to bring you church at home. I'm Pastor Garrett, so if you haven't met me yet, hi! Welcome to Cross Connection Church. Here at Cross Connection, we're all about living life in connection with God, one another, and the world through Jesus Christ. Part of the way that I want to encourage you to do that today is through...
Prayer is deeply valued here at Cross Connection because our God does listen and hears every single prayer that you pray. I want to invite you to let us know how we can be praying with and for you this week. You can go to prayer.life in connection right now, from your home or your couch, and share your prayer requests with us. We want to see how God is going to answer your prayers. We believe that He loves you, cares for you, and knows what is going on in your life. We want to lift up your needs in prayer, whether they are for you or your family members. Let’s see how God answers those prayers this week. Again, visit prayer.life or prayer.lifeinconnection.com; we would love to pray for you.
Our mission this week is Alternatives Medical Clinic here in Escondido. We have been supporting Alternatives for years, and they are an amazing ministry. There are a couple of different ways that you can pray for them. Their ministry primarily reaches young families, particularly young women who are pregnant and looking for alternatives to abortion. They provide guidance on how to raise a child and navigate pregnancy. They offer services such as ultrasounds and heartbeat monitoring, addressing every little aspect along the way. Not only that, but they also love to share Jesus Christ with these young families and girls who come to them. They are providing the hope of Jesus Christ and teaching about the value of children. It is truly an amazing ministry here in Escondido.
Recently, Alternatives went through a leadership shift, which is a good thing. Their CEO and CFO are both transitioning out, and new leaders are coming in. Please pray for the future of Alternatives and for the new leadership, that God would inspire them with His Holy Spirit and give them a fresh vision for this really important ministry in our hometown of Escondido.
In just a moment, we will be transitioning back to Pastor Anthony, who will lead us in another song of worship before we get to the message. This is a time we like to set aside for those of you who call Cross Connection Church your home. It is an opportunity to worship the Lord with our giving, which is an important part of being a believer and supporting the ministry of Cross Connection Church. By supporting us, you are also supporting ministries like Alternatives and all the missions we mention each week.
There are a couple of different ways that you can give today. First, you can text the number 84321 from your cell phone with any amount, and it will walk you through the process of giving right there from your phone. Alternatively, you can go online to give.lifeinconnection.com.
It's a very simple giving portal right there, or you can simply mail your tithe to our church address listed below: 1675 Seven Oaks Road in Escondido, California.
Well, God bless you guys! Let's worship the Lord together.
All throughout my history, faithfulness has walked beside me. The winter storms may wait for spring, and in every season, from where I'm standing, I see the evidence of Your goodness all over my life.
Fear may come, but You lead my heart to victory. You are my strength, and You always will be. I see the evidence of Your goodness all over my life.
See the cross, the empty grave; the evidence is endless. All my sin rolled away because of You, oh Jesus. See the cross, the empty grave; the evidence is endless.
All my sin rolled away. I see the evidence of Your goodness all over my life, all over my life. Amen. I see Your promises and fulfillment all over my life, all over my life.
I see the evidence of Your goodness all over my life, all over my life. I see Your promises and fulfillment all over my life, all over my life. And why should I fear? Oh, the evidence is here. Why should I fear? Oh, the evidence is here.
Yes, Lord God, we see the evidence, Lord, all around us, all throughout our lives. Before we met You and now that we have You in our lives, we belong to You, and You belong to us. Lord, we thank You for Your love. We love the way You love us. I love the way You provide, the way You heal, the way You protect, and the way You do the things You do, Lord God, in our lives and through our lives.
Bless You, God. Bless our time in Your Word now, in Jesus' mighty name. Amen.
I don't know about you, but I'm rarely shocked by the shifts in our culture. Sometimes I'm a little surprised, but I'm rarely shocked by the things that are going on. When I am preparing to give any message, one of the things I will do is begin by searching for resources. Effectively, I'm building a bibliography. These resources might be a list of passages of Scripture that we're going to go through that connect to the idea or the passage that I'm going to be speaking on. It might also include biblical commentary on a passage, scholarly articles from journals, and sometimes data and research on various topics. Occasionally, it's just going to news sources to read what the news is saying or to read op-ed pieces in major publications.
We are currently talking about connection here at Cross Connection Church. Our vision, as you probably know, is life in connection with God, one another, and the world through Jesus. In my previous messages, I talked about the purpose of the church—not just our church, but the church as a whole—and the purpose of human beings as the creation of God. I shared that we were created by God to be in connection with Him, to experience perfect communion with Him. However, we've considered how we are all, because of the rebellious fall written about in , disconnected from God.
I shared in my last talk how we desire this connection with something transcendent, but in and of our own strength and by our own efforts, we can't achieve the connection that we are seeking, no matter how hard we try to experience it. I finished up last time talking about Jesus's mission to bring us back into connection with God. Jesus came to this world seeking to save that which is lost. That's what we're told in the Gospel of Luke, chapter 19, verse 10. This is one of Jesus's purpose statements. His mission is articulated in a dozen or more purpose statements in the Bible, and is one of them. It is one of the themes.
In the verses of the Gospel of Luke, we are told that the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which is lost. Several weeks ago, we talked about, on Palm Sunday, the story of Zacchaeus, the tax collector whom Jesus met in the city of Jericho. This passage comes from that encounter. As Jesus reaches out to this tax collector, He explains to the crowds, who were upset that He would interact with a sinful man like Zacchaeus, that the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which is lost. This is one of the purpose statements of Jesus in His coming to the earth.
There are other clear expressions of His mission. Another is found in the theme verse of the Gospel of Mark, , where Jesus says, "For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve and to give His life a ransom for many." He came to lay down His life; He came to seek and to save that which is lost. There are many other verses like this. For example, in , Jesus says, "I have come that you may have life and that you may have it more abundantly."
All of this speaks to Jesus's mission. I shared in my talk last time that Jesus came to the earth on a reconnection mission. That was our focus last time: life in connection with God, which we all desire because we are born believers. We were created to live in perfect communion with God. Life in connection with God is through Jesus. This is what our mission statement here at Cross Connection Church says.
The Apostle Paul writes in that God the Father was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself. Jesus came to the world on a reconciliation mission. Ultimately, though we want to be connected with God, full reconciliation is not possible apart from Jesus's reconciling work. It is not possible because of our sin. Our sin creates a gulf, an expanse that we cannot cross by our own strength.
Using the exact same word that is translated as "reconciling" in , Paul writes this in , a very famous passage of Scripture, beginning at verse 6: "For when we were still without strength..."
In due time, or at just the right time, Christ died for the ungodly. For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man some would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more than having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him.
For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. Not only that, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation.
All of that to say this very important point: we are reconciled to God through Jesus. The connection to transcendence that every single human being desires is possible in Christ. I would even say that it's only possible in Christ because ultimate connection to transcendence is not possible until we are fully present with God outside of this world, in eternity where God dwells. That is where we will finally experience what the ancient sages would call fullness of joy.
In , which was written some 3,000 years ago, the psalmist, who is King David, the great king of Israel, says, "In Your presence, God, is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore." The psalmist, three thousand years ago, looked forward to a time when we would experience fullness of joy, which can only be experienced when we are fully experiencing the fullness of all that we were created for—being connected to God.
In the presence of God, in connection with Him, is fullness of joy. That will be experienced when we are at His right hand, where there are pleasures for eternity, forevermore.
Now, this reconciliation and connection to the God that is above all, who is the fullness of all things, is what every human being desires. It is what we were created for. However, it isn't the only thing that we desire at a fundamental level. We desire connection with God; we were made for this connection with God. We lost this connection with God because of disobedience and rebellion.
Sin can lead to a restoration of connection with God through Christ and Jesus's work on the cross. However, we also desire a connection with one another. I began this message by saying that I am rarely shocked by the shifts we see in culture, but occasionally I am a bit surprised. In preparation for this message, I was searching for resources online and stumbled upon a recent essay published in The New York Times by a young African-American woman named Haley Blasengame.
In her essay, Haley discusses a recent breakup with her boyfriend of five years and how she has realized during the pandemic, particularly during the shutdowns of the last 13 to 14 months, that she identifies as what she calls a solo polyamorous individual. She does not want to be joined to just one person for life. From what I could tell, she is probably in her early 30s. She states that she cherishes and prioritizes autonomy and the preservation of self. For Haley, being joined in a monogamous relationship feels confining; it kind of locks her up. She expresses a need for autonomy and freedom in the article she wrote.
None of this may seem all that strange to a certain segment of our society in 2021. It is not shocking to hear some people talk in this way, but it is surprising to me for at least three reasons. As I was reading through this and thinking about all the things I wanted to discuss in this message, I found it surprising for three reasons.
First, this sentiment is surprising to me when juxtaposed with the increasing crisis of loneliness, which has been compounded during the shutdowns of 2020. In June of 2016, the then Surgeon General of the United States was interviewed and stated that our greatest public health crisis isn't cancer or heart disease; it's isolation. According to the Surgeon General in 2016, the effects of being socially isolated are the biggest health crisis. If isolation and loneliness were the...
The greatest public health issue and crisis in the United States in 2016 can be certain that it is far worse now. After 14 months of isolation and shutdown for many people due to COVID, just this last Thursday, I came across a headline in my news feed. The headline read, "Two in three Americans feel more alone than ever before," and many admit to crying for the first time in years. This was found on StudyFinds.org.
As I read through the article, it stated that 67 percent of Americans say they feel more alone than they ever have before. Additionally, 55 percent feel like they've completely lost their sense of community over the past year. Furthermore, 54 percent admitted that they withheld from talking to anyone about how they felt alone during the past year because they didn't want to be a burden to others. The article noted that feelings of loneliness and isolation were so rampant among Americans that 46 percent admitted they cried for the first time in years at some point during COVID.
Hayley's essay about wanting to be solo and separated from people, essentially living in isolation, is strange to me because loneliness is at an all-time high, and it seems to be increasing in our culture. That is the first thing that stands out to me. The second thing is that her essay resonates with a relatively large and growing group of young people.
There weren't any comments available on Haley's article or her essay in The New York Times, but she did have a Twitter account. I went to her Twitter account, where she had posted a link to her essay. People were giving feedback on what she said, and most of the feedback was from younger people in their 20s and 30s. Most of their responses were affirming of her position and the things she was saying.
One of the responses to her article said, "Freeing yourself from the suffocation of society is a great and worthy challenge, and I believe that the only way to truly be authentic in existence." Another response stated, "I'm daily impressed by the commitment to authenticity and selfhood I see in young women like you." Yet another comment read, "Your article resonated with me; I have never been able to attach words to this feeling."
I love people and I love relationships, but I feel more whole alone. One more thing that I found fascinating is solo polyamory. I loved this concept; I had not heard of it before, but it is what I've been looking for without knowing I was looking for it. Thank you for using your voice and platform to advocate for a broader experience of love and life. This resonates with people.
However, that leads to a third reason that I'm surprised by this sentiment. While it resonates with many, it's not possible for any sustainable period of life. It sounds appealing to some people to have love without the responsibility of genuine connection, but it won't last. In the end, if you buy into this mindset, you will be among the 67 percent of people in our culture right now who are alone and lonely. As life goes on, loneliness compounds over time.
When you live in a really big urban environment, like Haley does in Washington, D.C., or like some of the commenters on our article who live in places like Brooklyn, you might feel like you could do this indefinitely. You may have a lot of other single friends during your 20s and 30s, but that's not how people are geared. As people start to move towards what they truly are created for—connecting with others—you will ultimately come to a day when you find yourself isolated and alone.
We were made to live life in connection with one another. We see this as we go back into the Scriptures, as we have done every week over the last several weeks. If we go back to , we read, "Then God said, 'Let us make man in our image and likeness.'" In verse 27, it continues, "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God, He created him; male and female, He created them."
Then God blessed them. Note this in verse 28: "Then God blessed them, the male and female, and said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth.'" Why would God bless man and woman, Adam and Eve, in that situation and say to them, "Be fruitful and multiply" to make more people just like them? It was not so that they could live solely autonomous lives, but so that they could be connected together as one in community.
Experience the very thing that God was trying to impart to us when He made us in His image and His likeness within the Trinity. As I talked about three or four weeks ago, there is perfect communion between the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. God says, "Let Us, Father, Son, Holy Spirit, make man in Our image and likeness; make them male and female," so that they could be joined together.
If you look at , right after we read this, we find the following: "And the Lord God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone.'" If you have a Bible with you today, that would probably be a really good verse to underline. It is not good that man should be alone. God did not create us to live solo, autonomous lives; He created us to live life in connection.
Immediately after we read God's saying, "It's not good that man should be alone," we read in , beginning at verse 21: "And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept. And God took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into woman, and He brought her to man." Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man."
Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. They were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed. From one man, Adam, God made two: Adam and Eve, with the intent that the two would be joined together as one, that they would become one flesh. This was God's aim, His plan, and His intent from the start.
This is an issue of creation, not socialization. Marriage, as we see it, is not something that was instituted by man or created by men; it was instituted and created by God when He made two from one: Adam and Eve. The purpose was that the two would be joined together as one, experiencing perfect communion. The result of this perfect communion, of them being joined together, is that they are fruitful, multiply, and create more community, allowing for perfect harmony and communion. Thus, this is an issue of creation, not socialization.
We were made to live life in connection with one another. However, we all recognize that we are not living lives that are perfectly connected. We live lives that are close in proximity to one another. I've often told the members of our church that here in our location, we're just within ten miles of nearly a million people. So, we live lives in close proximity to a lot of people in cities and urban environments, but we don't live life in connection with one another. We are not experiencing genuine communion and unity with people. We may be living in the same place as others, but we are very divided.
At this moment, we may be more divided than at any other time in the recent past in the Western world, especially in the United States. We are divided over religion, sadly divided over skin color, divided over socioeconomic status, and definitely divided over politics—maybe more so right now than we have been in a long time. We are also divided over perspective or ideology. The way that we see the world contributes to this division.
Is it really any wonder that at a time of great division, as we are living in right now, we are also experiencing increased feelings of isolation and loneliness? I suggest to you that there is no wonder in this happening in our culture. The aspirational message that we are being sold is one that promotes an idea of solo polyamory. This concept suggests that you can connect with everybody but not really have any responsibility to those people with whom you are connecting.
Where did all this separation and division come from? The answer is the same as before: it stems from the disconnection between us and God that we were created for. I just read from a moment ago. The very last verse of states that Adam and Eve, when they were joined together as one flesh, were both naked—the man and his wife—and they were not ashamed.
Ashamed, we get into , which we've looked at quite a bit over the last several weeks. However, we're going to look at it again, specifically in verse six.
states, "So when the woman saw that the tree that God had told them they ought not to eat of was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and she ate. She also gave it to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made for themselves coverings."
In the beginning, we were made to live life in connection with one another. We see that these two individuals, male and female, were made to live life in connection with God. "Let us make man in our image and likeness." They were living life in connection with one another, totally unbroken. They were naked and unashamed, completely vulnerable before one another and not ashamed of that.
However, as soon as they disobeyed, as soon as they broke God's command, and as soon as they committed what we call sin, that connection was instantly broken. They perceived that they were naked. They were naked before, but they didn't notice it. They were vulnerable with one another, but there was no shame there. Now, after they have sinned, they experience brokenness, and shame comes in immediately. They sow fig leaves to try and make coverings for themselves. Notice what they're doing there: they are trying to cover up their own brokenness, to cover up their own sin, to deal with the division.
That's religion—it's like the first evidence of religion in the Bible: man trying to fix the problem on his own, but it will never be sufficient. In the beginning, we were made to live life in connection with God and one another. However, division, separation, isolation, loneliness, and death are all the results of the fall here in .
That's the sad state of our world. We live in a broken, divided, lonely, and segregated world. What is amazing, at least to me, is that all of our efforts to try and deal with the brokenness are only ultimately going to make things worse. We deeply desire unhindered connection with one another because that's what we were made for. We see it all the way back in , thousands and thousands of years ago.
We want perfect communion, unity, and harmony with others, but that is impossible by our own efforts, even by our best efforts. So what then is the answer? Well, as I've done before, we go from Genesis to the New Testament to the Book of Ephesians. We've talked about this a lot recently as well.
is one of my favorite passages about dealing with the problem of brokenness, isolation, and separation because of the sin that came in . We read about this in the New Testament in , beginning at verse 14.
Therefore, remember that you were once Gentiles in the flesh, who were called the uncircumcision by that which is called the circumcision made in flesh by hand. Paul, in , is describing a separation between groups—people groups, ethnicities, nations, if you will. If you were not Jewish, you were not a part of the Old Covenant from Genesis to Malachi. You were separated from all of those things, and there was division: ethnic division, national division, all these divisions.
At that time in the past, you were without Christ and alienated from the commonwealth of Israel. You were strangers from the covenants and promises, having no hope in the world and without God. But now, in Christ Jesus, you who once were afar off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For He Himself is our peace. Jesus is our peace, who has made both one. Two separated individuals are combined together as one, and He breaks down the middle wall of separation, having abolished in His flesh the enmity, which is the law of commandments contained in ordinances.
His aim is to create in Himself one new man from the two, thus making peace. He might reconcile them both to God in one body through the cross, thereby putting to death the enmity. He came and preached peace to you who were far off and to those who were near. For through Him, we both have access by one Spirit to the Father.
Now, therefore, you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God.
The household of God has been built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Jesus Christ Himself being the chief cornerstone. In Him, the whole building, being fitted together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord. In Him, you also are being built up together for a dwelling place of God in the Spirit.
Jesus is the mediator who reconciles us to God and to one another. The path of reconciliation is the gospel. We read the gospel in brief in that passage: through the blood of Christ, that is the gospel message. Jesus, who knew no sin, became sin for us; He was crucified on the cross, His blood was shed, and His body was broken. Through His blood, we are reconciled.
The path for reconciliation—between God and man, and between humanity—is through the blood of Christ. The place of reconciliation is the church, the body of Christ. We are joined together as one, as Paul says in . Whether you are Jewish under the old covenant or Gentiles, we come together. We break down the separation between nationalities, skin colors, different ideologies, or political parties. The place where we are supposed to be joined together as one is the church.
Through the blood of Christ, we are reconciled; through the body of Christ, we are joined together as one. This is where we begin to experience and express true oneness and unity within the body of Christ, within the church. As a local church, right here in North San Diego County, Cross Connection Church is focused on these very things. We are focused on life in connection with one another through Jesus, through His blood, the gospel, and through His body, the church.
That is where we find the bringing together of two that once were at enmity. This serves as the theological basis for our mission and vision: life in connection with God, one another, and the world through Jesus. This is the theology of it, going back to Genesis and looking at Ephesians, moving from the Old Testament to the New Testament. This is where we establish the theological foundation.
As we wrap up our time together today, I want to move from the theological to the practical. This is really how I approach things in life and in ministry. We begin with the theological: what does the Bible tell us about why these things are? Then we move to the practical. I am a huge fan of practical and applied theology. I don't think it's enough just to know these things in your mind; we also need to take what we know from the Scriptures and move it into practice.
In old-world theological terms, we move from orthodoxy—what we believe—to orthopraxy—how we live this out and how we practice it. So, what does life in connection with one another through the gospel and within the body of the church actually look like? I need to say that what I'm going to share in answering that question is not comprehensive or exhaustive. There is no way that I could exhaustively answer the question of what it practically looks like to live life in connection in any meaningful way in the short time we have together today.
However, I do want to give you a few ways that you can begin to experience life in connection with God and with one another within the context of this church. First, you must accept Jesus. You must put your trust in Him as Savior and Lord. You must receive His forgiving grace for your sins, and you must commit, by His grace and enabling power, to become a part of the body, the church. This is really important; this is where we respond to the good news of the gospel.
We all recognize that we live in a broken world and that we lead broken lives because of sin, as we read theologically in . We all notice and see that we have a desire.
To have a life and an experience of creation that is better than the broken world we live in, that's Genesis chapters one and two. We try, in our own efforts, by our own good works, which is religion, to deal with all those things, and none of that will ever be sufficient. So, Jesus comes to fix the problem. He stands in our place and deals with our sins so that we can enter into connection with God and with one another.
How do we practically move into that? Well, first, you need to trust in Him, not in your own good works or your own efforts. You put your trust in Jesus, that He is Savior and that He is Lord, receiving His forgiving grace for your sins. Then, you commit, by His enabling grace and power, to live in connection with Him and within the church.
So then, how do we do that practically? How do we connect with God practically? How do we connect with one another practically? We connect with God through the Scriptures. One of the things that we do here at the church is open the Bible, which is God's word to us, and we connect with God through His word. We get to know what He is like and what He likes. When I say that we get to know what He's like and what He likes, I'm talking about the nature and will of God.
How do you know the nature and will of God? There are certain things you can deduce about God by looking at creation, but we really need the special revelation of Scripture to understand what God is like and what God likes, to know His nature and His will. So, we connect with God first and foremost through the Scriptures.
Then, we connect with God through prayer. When we are praying, we are talking to God, and we expect that He hears our prayers and answers our prayers. One of the things that we see here at Cross Connection Church is answered prayer all the time. We highly value prayer—praying for one another and praying for our own needs.
We connect with God through the Scriptures, through prayer, and when we gather together to worship Him as a body. When we sing songs of praise to God, we are connecting with Him. Another way that we connect with God is through communion, which we will partake of here in the not-too-distant future. In communion, we partake of the bread, which symbolizes Jesus's body that was broken for us, and the cup, which reminds us of His blood that was shed for us. So, we connect with Him through communion.
Baptism is something we will be discussing a lot more in the coming weeks, as we have a baptism planned here in the month of June at Cross Connection Church. We connect with God through the Scriptures, through prayer, through worship, through communion, and through baptism. One of the ways we connect with God is through sacrificial serving; we give of ourselves to serve people within the church, whether it's serving here on Sunday mornings or participating in one of our outreach programs.
We also connect with God when we give financially. It is a pattern in my life that I give of the first fruits of all my income. Both my wife and I give sacrificially, and that is one of the ways we connect with God. There are many practical ways we connect with God: through the Scriptures, through prayer, through worship, through service to one another, and through giving to one another. All of these practices, including baptism and communion, are ways we practically connect with God. We will have much more to say about this as we continue to go through the Scriptures together.
Now, how do we practically connect with others? There are several ways. One is what we call fellowship, which the Bible refers to as koinonia. This term means living in communion and community with one another. We experience fellowship at Cross Connection Church when we gather together on Sunday mornings to worship. We also experience it when we serve together on a service team or an outreach team.
Another significant way we experience fellowship is through our connect groups. These are home groups that meet in various homes throughout the month across our county. They provide opportunities for us to come together, share a meal, encourage one another, hear about what is happening in each other's lives, and serve one another through prayer. Fellowship takes place in these connect groups. If you want more information about them, just visit our website, lifeinconnection.com, where you can learn more.
We connect with one another through fellowship, through gathering together in the church, and through our connect groups. We also connect when we serve each other within the church. Worshiping together in community is another way we enjoy fellowship with one another.
Experiencing this connection with one another involves praying together and praying for one another. We have groups of people within the church that get together to pray for each other and for the needs of the church. This is one of the ways we connect with one another.
We also connect when we care for one another. In fact, there are dozens of what we call "one another" verses in the Bible. Maybe someday we'll do a series of teachings on the "one anothers" of the Bible, because there are probably more than 50 verses that say things like love one another, care for one another, bear one another's burdens, forgive one another, and share with one another.
Our aim as a church, as we seek to live life in connection with one another, is to daily learn more about what it looks like to actually live out the "one anothers" of Scripture. We aim to experience, express, and extend this life in connection in all that we do. That final "e," extend, is what we will be talking about next time.
Our vision is life in connection with God, which we've discussed, life in connection with one another, which I've been talking about today, and life in connection with the world. We want to extend this good news that we can experience the very thing we were created for: connecting with God, connecting with one another, and sharing that with the people in our community, our families, and those we work with or live next door to.
Extending this good news is actually what Jesus commissioned His followers to do at the end of the Gospels: go into all the world and make disciples of all nations, telling them this good news about restored connection and being reconciled to God and one another.
As we gather next week, we will discuss life in connection with the world—how we do that, why we do that, the theological basis for it, and how we can practically live that out. I hope you will join us next time as we talk about this.
Father God, I pray that you would take the truths of Your Word and cause them to go deep into our hearts. May they take root like a seed and begin to grow up and produce fruit in our lives. Lord, I pray for those who are watching this and who already have a relationship with You; they have already trusted in You.
In you for salvation, I pray that you would begin to produce in their lives the fruit, the evidence of your Spirit dwelling in them: love, joy, peace, kindness, self-control, gentleness. All of these good things are described in . Cause that to be fruit in our lives.
Lord, I pray for anyone who is watching this right now and has not yet put their trust in you. I pray that you would draw them by your Spirit to pray to you and to ask you to come into their life, to forgive them of their sin. May they trust not in their own good works or their own efforts, but in you for your saving grace and your forgiveness. Begin to do a work of grace in their life. Draw them to yourself, I pray today. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
On the day that death surrendered to the mighty cross of Jesus Christ, the earth would shake beneath the weight of darkened skies. On His brow, a crown of sorrow for a King whose weakness was our strength. No word He spoke; His love was shown for all to see. Oh, the cross of Jesus Christ is...
For His blood has set me free. The flood of resurrection fills the night as hope prevails to shine. Salvation awakens to break through.
Hello! Hallelujah!
You want it on. He comes in glory to reveal the fullness of His reign. All hearts will bow to Jesus.
Father God, we thank You for the time that we've had today to go through Your Word and to worship You. I pray for all of those who are watching this message and are not gathered together with us here on a Sunday morning. I ask, God, that You would be with them and that You would encourage them. Lord, pour out a blessing upon those who are tuned in, those who are a part of Your church.
We pray for those who have not yet put their trust in You, that You would draw them to Yourself. God, I know that there are people right now who are watching this and do feel isolated. I pray that You would encourage them wherever they are.
Lord, we ask that You would draw near to them by Your Spirit, and that they would recognize Your presence. Bring them into a place of connecting not only with You through Your Word, prayer, and worship, but also connecting with others through fellowship and caring for one another. So, Lord, just draw those people into that place.
Even though we may be at a distance from one another, we thank You for the ability and availability of this technology to minister Your truth to others, even when they are not gathered with us on a Sunday morning. Encourage those who are feeling alone and isolated, and draw near to them. Bless them, we pray, in Jesus' name. Amen.
Now may the Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. May He lift up His countenance upon you and give you His peace. The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God the Father, and the fellowship of His Holy Spirit be with you all. Amen. God bless you, and we will see you next time.
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