Rejoicing & Content | Sunday, August 9, 2020
August 7, 2020 · Pastor Miles DeBenedictis
In this teaching
Pastor Miles offers a mid-year "state of the church" address explaining how COVID-19 has fast-tracked cultural and church trends already underway, then closes with a teaching from Philippians 4 on graciousness, rejoicing always, and contentment through Christ's strength.
- COVID-19 did not create new trends but accelerated trends already in motion across business, culture, and the church by as much as ten years.
- Since 2008, faithful church members have attended less frequently due to longer work weeks, smartphones, and busier family schedulesânot necessarily diminished commitment.
- Cross Connection has intentionally changed its model (from frequent gatherings to Sunday services plus home groups) to minister to the culture rather than die fighting change.
- Going forward the church will invest in a distinct online venue while still pursuing fellowship, hospitality, prayer, and discipleship.
- From Philippians 4, Paul calls believers to let their gentleness be known, to rejoice always through an eternal perspective, and to learn contentment by Christ's strength.
- Miles prays this season would refine believers into Christ's likeness and draw people to Jesus, whoânot politicsâis the true answer for the nation.
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Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I say, rejoice. Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus... I have learned in whatever state I am to be content. I know how to be abased. I know how to abound... I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ()
A mid-year update on how COVID-19 accelerated trends in church and cultureâand a Philippians 4 call to rejoice and rest content in Christ's strength.
Finding a Sweet Spot in a New Format
I've been trying to find a sweet spot in this new format of preaching over the last five months. I've preached to gathered groups for more than 20 years, and over that time you develop a pattern, an algorithm, if you will. But with this new formatâonline video, with no immediate crowd response or feedbackâI've been playing with it to figure it out. I hope and pray it's been landing correctly. I've gotten a little positive feedback, and we've made some minor tweaks along the way.
I feel it's necessary to give you something of a state-of-the-church addressâmaybe a mid-year updateâand to share something from the Scriptures as well.
COVID-19 Fast-Tracked Existing Trends
I'm convinced that church at home, due to the COVID-19 shutdown, has only forwarded trends that were already happening in business, culture, society, and church. How far forward it has sent us remains to be seen, but let me explain.
One thing my wife is bummed about is that Nordstromâonly about 10 minutes from my houseâhas closed. The sign is gone, the coffee is gone, the building is dark, and it isn't coming back. But here's the fascinating thing. If there had been no COVID-19 in 2020, and we jumped forward to 2030, the 16 stores Nordstrom is currently closing would probably be closed anyway. Nordstrom was already downsizing its retail footprint in favor of online retail. COVID-19 just fast-tracked the execution.
Something my wife and I are happy about is that Amazon is delivering faster. If you drive by the old Nordstrom building or the mall, you'll see dozens of Amazon Prime vans staged in the parking lot. Prior to COVID-19, Amazon had been purchasing distressed real estate at vacated malls to pre-position their logistics and warehousing closer to customers, making it cheaper, easier, and quicker to deliver within 24 hours or the same day. That was Amazon's plan for the next five to ten yearsâbut COVID-19 fast-tracked it.
This is happening throughout society in every sphereâeducation, government, retail, healthcare, travel, communication. We're watching adaptations and changes at a rapid pace. And it's happening in churches too.
Why Rapid Change Unsettles Us
Some of these changes we don't like. We don't really like change anyway, especially fast change. It promotes a sort of future shock. If these changes happened slowly over ten years, we'd hardly recognize them until we looked back and said, "Remember when you used to get your coffee at Nordstrom? That was so crazyâyou'd have to drive over there. I love that it just gets delivered to my house each morning."
Right now a lot of churches and pastors are working hard to get back to normal church. There's something pleasing to me about that too. I like a lot of things about church as it was B.C.âbefore COVID. But many leaders are forgetting something about church B.C.: we were already watching a concerning trend.
The Trend in Church Attendance Since 2008
Since 2008âthe year I became pastor of Cross Connection Churchâthere has been a clear trend in American Christianity. There are many theories about why, and maybe all or none of them are the cause. But the trend is clear: faithful members of churches go to church less faithfully. That doesn't sound very nice, but it's true, and you know it. If I weren't a pastor, but just a husband and father of four working 40 to 60 hours a week, often six days a week, I might be less faithful in attendance too.
Let me be clear: I'm not saying I like this trend. There are many trends in society I don't like, but whether I like them or not doesn't change their reality or direction. For some of you baby boomers, this is where you get upset because I made it generational. If you're 55 or older and started a family and attended church in the 1980s, you look at younger Gen Xers and millennials attending less regularly and think, "I used to go two or three times a week. Where's your commitment?"
The trend from 2008 to 2019â20 was a shift from attending church two to three times a week to two to three times a month. Most people 18 to 45 came about three out of five Sundaysâroughly 60% of the time. If you're a baby boomer, you've been heading toward or in retirement, accustomed to Sunday morning and maybe Sunday night, Wednesday night, even a men's or women's study midweek. So this doesn't make sense to you.
Why People Are Attending Less
After the economic downturn of 2008, many Americans experienced a shift in their lives and work. Work expectations increased. The eight-hour workday and 40-hour work week have changedâmuch research cites this. Over the last decade-plus, many Americans now work 45, 55, even 60-plus hours a week. With the advent of the smartphone in 2007, most workers are expected to be marginally on call even at home. I know people in our church who work six days a week, and if your kids play sports, the demands on your time are excessive.
I'm not saying this is a good thing. But it's reality, and it has drastically affected how people interact with the church. That doesn't mean they aren't committed followers of Jesus or committed to their church. Many of the people I'm describing are super committedâbut the demands on their time make it impossible to be at church every Sunday, let alone three or four times a week as in the 1990s.
At the end of 2019, on an average Sunday at Cross Connection we'd have about 570 peopleâadults, youth, and kids. But because of new attendance patterns, our church, if everyone showed up, was really more like 900 people. And the trend in the last five years shifted again: the average family was attending two or fewer out of four Sundaysâless than half the time. If you're a dual-income family working six days a week, Sunday becomes the only day off, the only day for birthday parties, the house, and sports. Even if you attend every week, with multiple kids there will be weeks when one has a cold and you can't bring them to children's ministry.
Choosing to Change Rather Than Die
I'm sharing all of this to identify a trend and to tell you what we're doing and why. I've watched this trend a long time, and COVID-19 has fast-tracked every trend by as much as ten years. Over the last 15 years, churches have been forced to rethink what they do in a big way. Most are unwilling and unable to do so. We don't change until the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of changeâand many churches choose to stay the same and die rather than change. I've witnessed it. I've watched many churches close their doors in the last 12 years, often because of a desire to fight cultural trends and an unwillingness to minister to the culture where it is.
Calvary Chapel of Escondido chose to change in a big way. We became Cross Connection Church, and it wasn't just a name change. It was a massive shift from offering services nearly every day or night to church on Sundays with small groups at home throughout the weekâall in anticipation of a trend I saw coming. When I became pastor in 2008, the church had experienced a steep five-year decline and was on a trend line toward dying. That changed because we changed how we minister to the community God called us to.
What Changes Now for the Church
In 2020 we've had a rapid shift due to coronavirus. Every American church has become a video multi-site church in the last 20 weeks, and all of you have grown accustomed to engaging with the church this way. That means even when we return to Sunday gatherings, more of you will choose to stay home and watch online from time to timeâmaybe twice a year, maybe once or twice a month. Even when I begin preaching again from the pub table at 1675 Seven Oaks Road, some of you will watch at home.
So we're investing in new equipment to focus our online venue. When we return to the facility, we'll probably continue producing a specific online service rather than simply live-streaming Sunday mornings. Why? Because the marketplace of the 21st century is entirely online. Two thousand years ago, the early church grew as Paul and the apostles ministered in the marketplaces of Ephesus, Philippi, Thessalonica, Corinth, Rome, and Crete. If the church today is to keep growing and reaching the culture, it will happen at our facility, but also on YouTube, Vimeo, Facebook, Instagram, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Google Play.
More Than Preaching
But church is not just preaching and teaching. The early church continued steadfastly in the apostles' doctrine, says the book of Acts, but also in fellowship, the breaking of breadâboth communion and hospitalityâand in prayers. So I challenge and encourage you to help us grow not only in online teaching but in fellowship, hospitality, prayer, and discipleship.
You can join the prayer team at prayerteam.lifeinconnection.com, which is why Pastor Mark led us in 31 Days of Prayer in July. You can host or join a small group at athome.lifeinconnection.com. If you feel disconnected from church, I understand. This isn't ideal, but it's life in August 2020. Baseball is weird, the NBA and NFL are figuring things out, many of you are working from home, and your kids' educationâlike mineâis up in the air. It feels absurd. But is God working in the midst of this? Yes, truly. Don't despair. God is on the move. One day we'll look back and say, "Remember all that craziness in 2020? God had a plan." We're trying to adapt and fulfill the mission God has given us in this new mission field. No church has it fully figured out. I beg you to bear with us, pray for us, and connect with me or our other leaders with questions.
Philippians 4: Let Your Gentleness Be Known
As we close, I want to share three quick things from .
First, Paul closes his letter exhorting two prominent ladies in the Philippian church who appear to have been at odds. I know it's hard to believe that could happen in a churchâapparently the Philippians were like your old church. I once heard a preacher refer to these two as "odious" and "soon touchy." So Odious and Soon-touchy were having a disagreement, and Paul challenges them to get over it and be like-minded.
Some of you are upset with someone else in the churchâmaybe even with me, because we're not meeting. Notice Paul says, "Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand." If you knew you were going to see Jesus today, would your beef with that other person really matter? Let your gentle, kind courteousness be known to all people, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. Let your graciousness shine so all can see it.
Rejoice in the Lord Always
Second, Paul writes, "Rejoice in the Lord always. Again, I will say, rejoice." Always means always. We don't rejoice only when things are good; we rejoice at all times. Why? Because we have the proper eternal perspective that says the sufferings of this present world are not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in us (). Our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory (). "In the world you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer. I have overcome the world," said Jesus in . A proper eternal perspective will promote present rejoicing.
Learning Contentment in Christ's Strength
Third, Paul writes, "I have learned in whatever state I am in to be content... I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." You and most everyone you know is facing challenges right now. When we're faced with challenges, our inclination is to whine, murmur, complain, and pout. Stop being a pout-pout fish. By Christ's strength we can and should learn contentment.
Years ago, going through a challenging time, a friend reminded me that there isn't much fruitfulness and growth on high mountaintops; the growth is found in the valleys. She was right. We may not like the valleys, but even in what the Bible calls the Valley of Baca in âwhich means bitterness, weeping, or lamentationâwe can find springs and pools of refreshing water. Always between Egypt and the Promised Land, or between Babylon and the Promised Land, is a harsh wilderness. You may be in the wilderness now, but an eternal perspective and the strength of the Lord can bring rejoicing and contentment.
Taken in Context
That has been my prayer for you, our church. And I ask you to pray for me, Pastor Mark, Pastor Nick, Pastor Jason, Pastor Anthony, Pastor Garrett, and all our leaders, elders, staff, and those who serveâthat we would also have that eternal perspective and be strengthened in the Lord.
So many look to "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength" as a verse of encouragement, but a lot of people take it out of context. I saw a T-shirt that said, "I can do all things through a verse taken out of context." Look at the context: it means we can go through difficult times and still be rejoicing. We can bear with people when we're upset or bothered by themâand we do that by the strength the Lord gives, so that we can grow.
This has been a challenging time, and there have been moments over these five months when I've been really discouraged by what's going on in our culture, our community, and the challenges with my kids' education. It has driven me before the Lord to confess wrong things in my own heartâfrustrations, anger. Scripture says, "Be angry, but sin not. Don't let the sun go down on your wrath." So there are times we have to go to the Lord and say, "God, forgive me." God wants to transform us through this.
God's Refining and Reviving Work
My hope is that as we come out of this and into a new season, we would be a little moreâor a lot moreâlike Jesus in how we respond and interact with people. That we'd see more of the fruit of the Spirit produced in usâlove, joy, peace, kindness, gentleness, self-control. And understand: God is using this challenging time not only to refine us, but to draw people to Himself. My prayer is that God would use it to bring about something of a revival in our day. Ultimately, the most important answer for our nation right now is Jesus Christ and the gospelânot new or better politicians, but new and better people transformed by the grace and power of God through the gospel and the Word. The church has the answer this culture needs. I pray God would use us to share it with those around us.
Closing Prayer
Father, I thank You for this weird situationâsitting in my office at home, a place I've spent a lot of time over the last four or five months, being able to share with the church. I don't think I've preached a message sitting down in about 20 years. This is strange, this is out of the box. But I pray, God, that You would use the work going on here at Cross Connection Church, and the work going through the church body, to draw people to Yourself. Continue to use Your Word by Your Holy Spirit to make us more like You. And may we, and those we interact withâfamily, coworkers, neighborsâsee Your transforming grace at work in our lives. God, work in us, we pray. In Jesus' name, amen.
Good morning, Cross-Connection Church, and welcome again to Church at Home from my home office. We are so glad that you are joining us this morning for a time of worship and study through the Scriptures. Just like we have been doing, I want to encourage you to send out a message to a friend or a group of friends to invite them to join us this morning. You can text them, email them, or share the link live.ccchurch.com on social media so that they can participate with us.
With that, let's join Pastor Anthony and the worship team for worship.
Let's pray. Heavenly Father, we thank You for this day, Lord, for another day given to us by You. With our very breath, we are going to speak Your name and praise You. That's why we are created, God. We thank You for Your Word. In , it says, "Is anything too hard for the Lord?" And God, we know that the answer is, "No, there is nothing too hard."
Lord, You want to speak that to us right now, to everyone who is listening and everyone who is here: You are for us. You love us, You care for us, and You will bring us through every trial. You are faithful, so just hold on to those truths.
With that, we are going to turn around and sing to You, praise You, and thank You for what You have already done in our lives, for what You are about to do, and for who You are. We praise You and worship You this morning in Jesus' mighty name. Amen.
Let's worship. Praises rising, eyes are turning to You. Return to You. Hope is stirring, hearts are yearning for You.
We long for You. When we see You, we find strength to face the day. In Your presence, all our fears are washed away, washed away.
Hosanna, Hosanna. You are the God who saves us, worthy of all our praises. Hear the sound of hearts returning to You. Return to You. In Your kingdom, broken lives are made new. You make us new.
When we see You, we find the strength to face the day. In Your presence, all our fears are washed away, washed away.
Hosanna, Hosanna. You are the God who saves us, worthy of all our praises. Hosanna, Hosanna. Come have Your way among us. We welcome You here, Lord Jesus.
We find the strength to face the day, even the hardest day. In Your presence, all our fears are washed away. Hosanna, Hosanna. You are the God who saves us, worthy of all our praises. Hosanna, Hosanna. Come have Your way among us. We welcome You here, Lord Jesus.
Welcome! Thanks for tuning in today to Cross Connection as we bring you church at home. I'm Pastor Garrett, and I'm glad that you could be with us today. Here at Cross Connection Church, we're all about living life in connection with God, one another, and the world through Jesus Christ.
One of the biggest ways that we step into life in connection with God is through prayer. Every single one of us can do that, and I encourage you and strongly recommend that you do throughout the week. Praying is so simple; it's just us talking to God and hearing from Him. Honestly, God answers so many prayers here at Cross Connection Church. If you have specific prayer requests or anything going on this week, we would love to be praying for you. Weâd love to know what's going on. You can simply give us your prayer requests at prayer.lifeinconnection.com.
For all other points of connection, check out our main homepage, lifeinconnection.com. You'll see updates there and all other points of connection.
This week's On Mission, we're asking you to pray for the kids who went to the Kids Party Club. This was our summer VBS that was hosted virtually with the Pilgrims. Just be praying for those kids. They all had an interaction with the gospel message. Pray that it soaks in, that it ministered to them, and that they would make a lifelong decision to follow Christ.
We have a quick video from the Pilgrims just to show what happened at this year's Vacation Bible School (VBS), so check it out.
Hello there! I'm Ken Pilvin, and this is my wife, Teresa. We are coming to you from the outermost part of Fallbrook, and we are part of the ministry Kids Party Club. Kids Party Club is basically a Vacation Bible School that we run in our neighborhood. At Vacation Bible School, as you probably know, we do Bible stories, worship songs, crafts, games, and snacks, all centered around a Bible story and a Bible point for the day, leading up to the gospel message. We have so much fun doing that.
Over 20 years ago, God laid on our hearts that there were many kids and families in our neighborhood who don't have a church they're connected with, and that we had an opportunity to reach out to those kids. Normally, we do it in June every year, but this year we quickly realized that, with the pandemic, things were going to be quite a bit different. We were concerned that we wouldn't be able to do it. However, we decided to go ahead and try it virtually, which was certainly a stretch for us, but it was a lot of fun. We recorded it all in our living room and had a good time doing it.
We also had the opportunity to have families come pick up their materials one by one, which allowed us to share with them and talk with them more than we normally would. We got to invite them to our connect group, which we're looking forward to getting back together with. There were a lot of good things that came from it that would not have happened if it were in person, so it was very fun.
One of the great things that happened when we went online this year was that we were able to broaden the area we reached. It went beyond our neighborhood, and we actually had kids sign up from Escondido all the way up to Corona, allowing us to reach many families. That was exciting! Another good thing is that, because it's on YouTube, it is there and ready to watch and re-watch. These kids can watch it again and again, sing these worship songs, watch these Bible stories, and hear the truth over and over again.
With that said, if you know anyone who would like to take a look, or if you have children in your sphere of influence, such as grandkids, and you would like to view what we did for VBS for Kids Party Club, you can email me at tpilben27@gmail.com, and I will send you the link.
As far as praying for us, we'd love for you to pray for us. Certainly pray for the pandemic to end so that we can meet in person next summer. Also, pray for the kids who were involved this year, that they have an opportunity to watch it more often than they normally would. Just pray that the Lord would work in their hearts and that they would be drawn. We thank you so much. God bless you all. We appreciate you greatly. Thank you.
In just a moment, we're going to be joining Pastor Anthony and the worship team for another song of worship. This will be a time where we set aside some moments to worship the Lord with our giving. I encourage all of you who call Cross Connection Church your home church to participate. If you're tuning in for the first time, don't feel pressured to give. This is for the family, and it is a way that we can further worship the Lord with what He has given us.
There are a couple of different ways that you can give today. First, you can go to give.lifeinconnection.com. Second, you can text 84321 on your cell phones. Third, you can mail in your tithe this week to 1675 7 Oaks Road, or you can always drop it by the church office. If we're not here, you can put it in the door.
We'd love to worship the Lord with you. Let's go ahead and join Pastor Anthony. We'll catch you next week.
You give life. You are love. You bring light to the darkness. You give hope. You restore every heart that is broken. Great are You, Lord. It's Your breath in our lungs, so we pour out our praise. We pour out our praise. It's Your breath in our lungs, so we pour out our praise. We praise You only. Great are You, Lord.
You give life. You are love. You bring light to the darkness. You give hope. You restore every heart that is broken. Great are You, Lord.
It's Your breath in our lungs, so we pour out our praise. We pour out our praise. It's Your breath in our lungs, so we pour out our praise to You only.
Great are You, Lord. And all the earth will shout Your praise. Our hearts will cry. These bones will sing. Great are You, Lord.
And all the earth will shout Your praise. Our hearts will cry. These bones will sing. Great are You, Lord.
And all the earth will shout Your praise. Our hearts will cry. These bones will sing.
Great are You, Lord. All the earth will shout Your praise. Our hearts will cry; these bones will sing. Great are You, Lord.
It's Your breath in our lungs, so we pour out our praise. We pour out our praise. It's Your breath in our lungs, so we pour out our praise to You only. Great are You, Lord. Oh, He's so great.
I tell You, God, that You are great. Great are You, Lord. Yes, Lord God, we know that You are great and greatly to be praised. And that's what we do; we praise You, for You are good, and Your mercies endure forever.
So, Lord, bless Your word now. In Jesus' name we pray.
I've been really trying to find a sweet spot in this new format of preaching over the last five months. I've been preaching to groups of gathered people for more than 20 years, and over that length of time, I have obviously developed a pattern, an algorithm, if you will. However, with our new format of online video, with no immediate crowd response or feedback, I've been experimenting to try and figure it out. I hope and pray that this has been landing correctly. I think it is. I've been receiving a little bit of positive feedback from some of you, and we've been making some minor tweaks and adjustments along the way, as you can see.
I do want to share with you some of the things that I've been thinking about as we move forward as a church. I feel that it is necessary to give you something of a state-of-the-church address, maybe call it a mid-year update. I will also share something from the Scriptures.
I'm convinced that church at home, due to the COVID-19 shutdown, has really only accelerated trends that were already happening in business, culture, society, and church. How far forward it has sent us remains to be seen, but let me explain what I mean a little bit.
One of the things that my wife is a bit bummed about, and maybe you can relate, is that Nordstrom, which is unfortunate for me because it is only about 10 minutes from my house, has closed. The Nordstrom sign is gone, Nordstrom coffee is gone, the building is dark, and it isn't coming back.
But here's the fascinating thing. When you look at business statistics, it's very likely that if there had been no COVID-19 in 2020 and we had jumped forward to 2030, the 16 stores that Nordstrom is currently closing would probably be closed. Nordstrom has already been on a path of downsizing their retail footprint in favor of online retail. COVID-19 just fast-tracked the execution.
One of the things that my wife and I, and probably you as well, are happy about is that Amazon is delivering a lot faster than they were. In fact, if you drive by the old Nordstrom building or the mall in general, you'll see dozens of Amazon Prime vans staged in the mall parking lot. What's that all about? Well, prior to COVID-19, Amazon had been purchasing distressed real estate space at old vacated malls to pre-position their logistics and warehousing closer to residents who purchase their products. This makes it cheaper, easier, and quicker to get you an order within 24 hours or even on the same day. This was Amazon's plan for the next five to ten years, but COVID-19 fast-tracked the plan.
This is happening throughout society right now in every sphere and industry. We're watching adaptations and changes at a rapid pace. This is true in education, government, retail, healthcare, travel, and communication. What am I bringing this up for? Because it's happening in churches too. I'll explain what that means in a moment.
Some of the changes that are happening right now, we don't like. We don't really like change anyway, especially fast changes. They are unsettling. In fact, it promotes a sort of future shock when changes happen rapidly. If these changes happen slowly over a ten-year period, we would hardly recognize them until we looked back and said, "Do you remember when you used to get your coffee at Nordstrom?" And, oh yeah, I remember that. That was so crazy that you actually had to drive to get your coffee over there. I love that it just gets delivered to my house each morning by Uber. It's so much easier.
What does this have to do with church? Right now, a lot of churches and pastors are working very hard to get back to normal church. There is something about that that sounds really pleasing to me as well. I like a lot of things about church as it was B.C., before COVID. But here's one of the things that a lot of pastors, churches, and leaders are forgetting about church B.C. We were watching a trend that was concerning. Since 2008, which happens to be the year that I became the pastor of Cross Connection Church, there has been a clear trend in American Christianity. There are a lot of ideas about why this trend has been happening, and maybe all of them or none of them are the cause.
But the trend is clear. Faithful members of churches are attending church less regularly. That may not sound very nice, but it is true, and you know it. Let me say, if I weren't a pastor of a church and were just a husband and a father of four, working 40 to 60 hours a week, often six days a week, I might be less faithful in my church attendance too.
Let me be clear: I'm not saying that I like this trend. There are many trends in society that I don't like, but whether I like them or not doesn't change the reality or the direction of the trend. For a number of you watching who are baby boomers, this is the point where some of you may get upset with me because I made it generational. For those of you who are 55 years or older and probably started growing a family and attending church in the 1980s, you look at these younger Generation Xers and millennials who are attending church less regularly and think, "I used to go to church two to three times a week. Where's your commitment?"
The trend from 2008 until about 2019-2020 was a shift from people attending church two to three times a week to two to three times a month. Most of the people who attend Cross Connection Church, and really every church, from 2008 to 2019, who are 18 to 45 years old, came to church about three out of five Sundays. That's about 60% of the Sundays.
Again, if you're a baby boomer, you've been headed toward retirement or are already retired during this time, and you were accustomed to attending church on Sunday mornings, maybe Sunday nights, Wednesday nights, or even a men's or women's study on Tuesday or Thursday. This shift doesn't make a lot of sense to you at all.
However, after the economic downturn of 2008, many people in America experienced a shift in their lives and work. As a result of this economic downturn and the changes in the economy and work, many Americans saw an increase in their work expectations after 2008. The idea of an eight-hour workday and a 40-hour workweek has changed in America. This has been cited in a lot of research. Over the last ten plus years, many working Americans now work 45, 55, or even 60 plus hours a week. Additionally, with the advent of the smartphone in 2007, most workers are now expected to be available and marginally on call when they are home.
I know a number of individuals in our church who work six days a week. If you have kids who play sports, then the demands upon your time are excessive. Now, I'm not at all saying that this is necessarily a good thing, but it is reality, and it has drastically affected the way that people interact with the church. However, that doesn't mean that they are not committed followers of Jesus or committed to their church. Many of the people Iâm describing are super committed to our church, but the demands on their time make it impossible for them to be at church every Sunday, let alone three or four times a week as many did in the 1990s.
You remember the last century? That was the trend leading up to 2020. On an average Sunday at Cross Connection at the end of 2019 and the beginning of 2020, we would have about 570 people, including adults, youth, and kids. However, because of the new attendance patterns, our church, if everyone showed up, was really more like 900 people. The trend in the last five years has been shifting again, meaning that the average person or family wasn't going to church three out of five Sundays. They were attending church two or fewer times out of four Sundays. That's less than half the time.
If you are a dual-income family and you work six days a week, then Sunday becomes the only day off. It is also the only day for birthday parties and taking care of the house, and sometimes for sports. Even if you do attend every week, if you have multiple kids, there are going to be weeks where one of them has a cold or a couple of them have a fever, making it impossible to bring the kids to children's ministry.
Why am I sharing all of this? I'm sharing this to identify a trend and to explain what we are doing and why we are doing it as a church. I've been watching this trend for a long time, and COVID-19 has fast-tracked every trend by as much as ten years. Over the last fifteen years, churches have been forced to rethink what they are doing in a big way. Most churches are unwilling and unable to do so. We don't like change, and so we will not change until the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of change. For a lot of churches, they choose to stay the same and die rather than embrace change. I know this is true because I've witnessed it many times. I've watched a lot of churches close their doors in the last twelve years.
Many of them have a desire to fight against cultural trends and are unwilling to minister to the culture where it is at. Calvary Chapel of Escondido chose to change in a big way. We changed from Calvary Chapel of Escondido to Cross Connection Church, and it wasn't just a name change. It was a massive shift of our church from offering services and opportunities to gather nearly every day or night of the week to church on Sundays and small groups at home throughout the week. This has been a significant shift, and it was all in anticipation of a trend that I was foreseeing.
When I became the pastor of this church in 2008, the church had experienced a steep decline in the previous five years. It was on a trend line toward dying. But that has changed because we changed. We changed how we seek to minister to the community that God has called us to. In 2020, we experienced a rapid shift in trends due to the coronavirus. Every single one of us is feeling the pressures of these changes, and it is challenging and difficult. My family, like many of yours, is trying to figure out what that means for us in the schooling of our four kids in just a few weeks. Every church is trying to reason through this as well.
What has changed in this fast forward with churches due to COVID-19? Every American church has become a video multi-site church in the last 20 weeks. All of you have become accustomed to engaging with the church in this format. So what does that mean? It means that even when we come back to gathering on Sunday mornings, more of you will decide to stay home and watch online from time to time. Maybe you will do it just two or three times a year, or perhaps you'll do it once or twice a month. The fact is, even when I begin preaching again on Sunday from the pub table at 1675 Seven Oaks Road, some of you are going to watch at home from time to time.
So what does that mean for us going forward? As I mentioned over the last couple of months, we're investing in new equipment to make it possible for us to focus our online venue a little bit more. When we get back to church at the church facility, we'll probably continue to record separately online as well. We won't just live stream our Sunday mornings; we'll produce a specific online service. Why are we doing this?
Because the marketplace of the world in the 21st century is entirely online, we must adapt. Two thousand years ago, the early church grew as Paul and the other apostles ministered and preached in the marketplaces of Ephesus, Philippi, Thessalonica, Corinth, Rome, and Crete. If the church in our day is going to continue to grow and reach the culture, it will happen at our church facility, but it will also happen on YouTube, Vimeo, Facebook, Instagram, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and the Google Play Store.
That is what we are doing. However, church is not just about preaching and teaching. The early church continued steadfastly in the apostles' doctrine, as stated in the Book of Acts, but they also continued in fellowship, the breaking of breadâwhich includes both communion and hospitalityâand in prayers. I want to continue to challenge and encourage you to help us grow, not only in our teaching and preaching online but also in our opportunities for fellowship, hospitality, prayer, discipleship, and all the other purposes for which the church exists.
If you want to be plugged into all the other things we are doing beyond online church at home, we want to help you grow in your faith and practice as a follower of Jesus. We want to help you become more of a prayer warrior, which is why Pastor Mark led us in 31 Days of Prayer in July. You can also join the prayer team by going to prayerteam.lifeinconnection.com. Additionally, you can begin or host a small group by visiting athome.lifeinconnection.com. All of this is available on our main website, so check the front page to see the points of connection.
If you are feeling disconnected from church, I totally understand that. This is not an ideal situation, but it is life in August of 2020. Baseball is weird, and the NBA and NFL are trying to figure out what they are going to do. Many of you are working from home, which is a change. Your child's education, like mine, is up in the air. This feels absolutely absurd.
But is God working in the midst of this? Yes, He truly is. Don't despair. God is on the move, and one day we will look back on this and say, "Remember all that craziness in 2020? God had a plan."
We are trying to adapt to what is going on. We're trying to figure out how best to fulfill the mission that God has given us in this new mission field. I don't think any church has completely figured it out. I'm happy with what we've been able to do in the last few months, but we're not there yet. I beg you to bear with us. Pray for us. Connect with me or the other leaders of our church if you want to ask questions or if you don't understand something. The phone number that we post on the screen goes directly to us. You can text us, and we see it immediately. Primarily, it's for the questions podcast, but we still see it. It's not a comment or a gripe line, but we do see and respond as we can.
With all of that, I want to close our time this morning with something from the Scriptures. Next week, we will get back to the book of Deuteronomy, chapter 4. I encourage you to read ahead in verses 32 through 40. As we close our time this morning, if you have a Bible handy, open or click to . I want to read from , beginning at verse 2 through verse 13.
There, Paul says, "I implore Euodia and I implore Syntyche to be of the same mind in the Lord. And I urge you also, true companion, help these women who labored with me in the gospel, with Clement also, and the rest of my fellow workers whose names are in the book of life. Rejoice in the Lord always. Again, I say rejoice. Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue, if there is anything praiseworthy, meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do. And the God of peace be with you.
But I rejoiced in the Lord greatly that now at last your care for me has flourished again, though you surely did care, but you lacked opportunity. Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am to be content. I know how to be abased. I know how to abound.
Everywhere and in all things, I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
So, three quick things before we close today. First, Paul, in this passage of Philippians, is closing his letter with an exhortation to two prominent ladies in the Philippian church who appear to have been at odds with one another. I know it's hard to believe that would ever happen in a church, but apparently, the Philippians were like your old church. I once heard one preacher refer to these two as odious, which means unpleasant, and soon touchy. So, odious and soon touchy were having a disagreement, and Paul challenges them to get over it and to be like-minded.
There are some of you who are upset with someone else in the church. Maybe you're upset with me because we're not meeting. Notice that Paul says in verse 5, "Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand." Listen, if you knew that you were going to see Jesus today, would your beef with that other person really matter? Let your gentle, kind, courteousness be known to all people. Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. That's the first thing: let your graciousness shine so that all can see it.
Secondly, Paul writes, "Rejoice in the Lord always. Again, I will say rejoice." Always means always. We don't rejoice only when things are going good; we rejoice at all times. Why? Because we have the proper eternal perspective that says the sufferings of this present world are not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in us (). Our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory (). And in the world, you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer. I have overcome the world, said Jesus in . A proper eternal perspective will promote present rejoicing.
Thirdly, Paul writes, "I have learned in whatever state I am in to be content. I know how to be abased and I know how to abound."
Everywhere and in all things, I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. You and most every other person you know are facing challenges right now. When we are faced with challenges, our inclination is to whine, murmur, complain, and pout. Stop being a pout-pout fish. By Christ's strength, we can and should learn contentment.
Years ago, I was going through a challenging time, and a friend of mine reminded me that there isn't a lot of fruitfulness and growth on high mountaintops. The growth and fruitfulness are found in the valleys, and she was right. We may not like the valleys of life, but even in what the Bible calls the Valley of Baca in , which means bitterness, weeping, or lamentation, we can find springs and pools of refreshing water. Always, between Egypt and the Promised Land, or between Babylon and the Promised Land, is a harsh wilderness. You may be in the wilderness now, but an eternal perspective and the strength of the Lord can bring rejoicing and contentment.
That has been my prayer for you, our church. I would ask that you pray for me, for Pastor Mark, Pastor Nick, Pastor Jason, Pastor Anthony, Pastor Garrett, and all of our leaders, our elders, our staff, and our people who serve in all the different areas, many of you who serve as ushers and greeters in hospitality. In this time, be praying for all of us that we would also have that eternal perspective. I think God really stirred Pastor Mark to share on this months ago, and that we would not only have an eternal perspective but also be strengthened in the Lord.
That passage, which so many people look back on as a verse that encourages them, states that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. However, we need to look at the context because a lot of people take that verse out of context. In fact, I saw a T-shirt not too long ago that said, "I can do all things through a verse taken out of context." So, obviously, it was referring to this verse and this passage. We do take this verse out of context a lot, but we need to understand what it means. It means that we can go through difficult times and still rejoice. We can still bear with people when we are upset or bothered by them, and we need to do that by the strength that the Lord gives so that we can grow.
This has been a challenging time, and there have been moments over the last five months when I've felt really discouraged by the things happening in our culture, by what I see in our own community, and by the challenges we're facing with my kids' education, among other things. This has compelled me to go before the Lord and confess a number of wrong things in my own heart, including frustrations and anger about various issues. Scripture says to be angry, but sin not; do not let the sun go down on your wrath. There are times when we must go to the Lord, confess, and say, "God, forgive me."
God wants to transform us through these experiences. My hope is that as we emerge from this challenging period, hopefully in the not-too-distant future, and enter a new season as a church and as individuals who make up the body of Christ, we would find ourselves becoming a little more, or perhaps a lot more, like Jesus in the way we respond and interact with others. I pray that we would see the development of more of the fruit of the Spiritâlove, joy, peace, kindness, gentleness, and self-controlâproduced in our lives.
Additionally, as I've encouraged you before, understand that God is using this challenging time not only to refine you and me, making us more like Jesus, but also to draw people to Himself. My prayer has been that God would use this situation to bring about a revival in our day. Ultimately, I believe the most important answer for our nation right now is Jesus Christ and the Gospel. It is not new or better politicians we need, but new or better people transformed by the grace and power of God through the Gospel and the Word of God.
The reality is that the church has the answer this culture needs. I pray that God would use us to share that message with those around us more effectively. On that point, would you pray with me for that?
Father, I do thank You for this unusual situation where I find myself sitting in my office at home, a place I have spent a lot of time over the last four or five months, and being able to share with the church. I don't think I've preached a message sitting down in probably twenty years. This is strange, this is weird, this is out of the box. But I pray, God, that You would use the work that is going on here at Cross Connection Church.
The work that is going through the church body of Cross Connection is significant. I pray that you would use it to draw people to Yourself. God, continue to use Your Word by Your Holy Spirit to make us more like You.
We ask that we, and those we interact with on a regular basisâour family, coworkers, and neighborsâwould see Your transforming grace at work in our lives. God, work in us, we pray. In Jesus' name, amen.
I know that You've even gone to win my heart. You come back with the hand of my enemy, and You call it my victory. You go before I know that You've even gone to win my heart. Your love becomes my greatest defense and leads me from the dry wilderness.
And all I did was pray. All I did was worship. All I did was bow down. All I did was taste. Hallelujah, You have saved me. So much better Your way. Hallelujah, great Defender.
So much better this way. Before I do, when my heart can't sleep to find Your truth, mercy is the shade I'm living in. You restore my faith and my hope again. All I did was praise. All I did was worship. All I did was bow down. All I did was taste.
Hallelujah, You have saved me. So much better Your way. Hallelujah, great Defender. So much better this way. Oh, better Your way.
When I thought I lost me, You knew where I left me. You reintroduced me to Your love. You picked up all my pieces and put me back together. You are the
You picked up all my pieces and put me back together. You are the defender of my heart. When I thought I lost myself, you knew where I left me. You reintroduced me to your love.
You picked up all my pieces and put me back together. You are the defender of my heart. Hallelujah, you have saved me! So much better in your way. Hallelujah, great defender! So much better this way.
Hallelujah, you have saved me! So much better in your way. Hallelujah, great defender! So much better this way. Oh, better your way.
And all I did was pray. And all I did was worship. And all I did was bow down. And all I did was stay. And all I did was pray.
And all I did was worship. And all I did was stay. And all I did was bow down. And all I did was stay. And all I did was pray. And all I did was stay.
Well, that was easy.
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